I think it is safe to assume you have been in a relationship before. And, I think you remember the stage where you weren't really sure what exactly you two should be defined as. You keep telling yourself you don't really need a title, it doesn't matter, but you can't help that occasionally the thoughts are creeping into the back of your mind.
You are more than friends, you are sure of that. Every time somebody asks how your "friend" is doing, you feel a little bit awkward because the way you talk to each other is nothing compared to how you talk to your friends, not even close.
So, more than friends for sure, but calling them your significant other? Already? You are not quite sure. Because that's a big step, and even though you like the idea, you don't want to seem super pushy and needy.
But, yes, you have to admit to yourself, defining your relationship would be helpful. Because while you might have completely given up on the whole flirting thing, the person you currently talk to could still be swiping her or his life away on Tinder.
Or, maybe you are not ready for commitment yet. Maybe you feel like dating multiple people at the same time, who knows.
Nevertheless, it's bound to happen. You and your not-quite-sure-how-to-be-defined-relationship partner need to have "the talk." It is important to be on the same page, the question simply is when is the right time to have this kind of conversation?
1. You are constantly talking to each other.
You wake up, and the first thing you do is send them a text, even though you can barely open your eyes. You constantly talk throughout the day and feel slighly disappointed when you check your phone after literally 30 seconds and they didn't respond just yet.
2. You tell them everything.
No matter what happened, they are the first person you want to tell everything about it. There is no such thing as secrets between you guys. It doesn't matter if it's embarrassing or simply amazing, they are going to know because you can't wait to share it with them. Also, you trust that they will keep your secrets.
3. They are the last person you talk to before you go to bed.
A quick FaceTime call before you go to bed or a text message? It is most definitely happening every single night.
4. You told your family and best friends about him/her.
It might have slipped out on accident, or maybe you just couldn't keep it to yourself anymore. I mean, after all, there is this amazing person out there who puts the biggest smile on your face, how could you not tell your friends and family about it?
5. You think about them a lot.
They are constantly on your mind. It doesn't matter if you are falling for the person or not, your thoughts are constantly spinning around them.
6. You get jealous.
Not in some super crazy way, but occasionally you feel a little bit of jealousy coming up, but of course, you would never admit that.
7. You are not interested in other people.
Flirting with the super hot chick over there at the bar or the guy who just paid for your coffee? Nope. You are just not feeling it. There is only one person on your mind, everybody else please back off.
8. You talk about the future.
Your dream wedding, how many babies and dogs you want, places you want to travel to – you both have all of that already planned out. There are days when you both dream about the future, and even though you know it might take five or even more years until then, it is nice to know you want the same things.
9. You can't imagine a life without them.
You don't even want to think about it, and why would you? They are not going anywhere.
