8 Steps On Your Road To Confidence

8 Steps On Your Road To Confidence

You just have to put in the effort!
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Many individuals in today’s society suffer from a lack of confidence and, thus, face the consequences of their low self-esteem. However, this self-consciousness does not have to control us or our lives any longer. Here are some tips to build your confidence level. Many individuals in today’s society suffer from a lack of confidence and, thus, face the consequences of their low self-esteem.

1. Dress to impress.

It is proven that if you take the time to pick out a nice outfit and fix your hair in the morning, you will exert more confidence throughout the day. If you dress frumpy, you are more likely to be embarrassed by the way you look and, consequently, you will feel less confident. So, dress nice, hold your head up high, and show off your great outfit!

2. Practice good hygiene.

Along with dressing nice, showering, brushing your teeth, and smelling nice can also improve the way you look and feel. These tasks only take a few short minutes and can make a world of difference in the way you hold yourself. Along with dressing nice, showering, brushing your teeth, and smelling nice can also improve the way you look and feel.

3. Get active.

A large portion of having a low self-esteem comes from body image. In today’s society, people have a certain idea of what they would like to look like. Not looking this "ideal" way can result in low self-esteem. A way to improve this and feel better is to exercise and work towards achieving your ideal body.

4. Get to know yourself.

Understanding yourself and embrace the things that you consider “flaws”. Each person has their own look and this individuality and uniqueness makes you who you are. When you learn to be okay with the way you look, confidence will flow in.

5. Do a good deed.

This can be as simple as holding the door for someone or picking up a piece of trash you find on the sidewalk. This will only take a few seconds and will help you feel good about yourself as well as the world around you.

6. Relax.

Put on a face mask, take a bath, listen to music. Treating yourself to this relaxation can help decrease stress levels, making you feel better in general. Handling stress can help you take control of your life, and also your confidence.

7. Think positive.

Pessimistic thinking and the assumption of negative outcomes in day to day tasks can only make you feel worse about yourself. Thinking positive and avoiding such negativity will increase your self-esteem and lead you to a more optimistic lifestyle.

8. Fake it til’ you make it.

Probably the easiest way to boost your self-esteem is to fake having confidence. Hold your posture high, strut as you walk, and show everyone how confident you can be. Pretending to have this confidence will, in return, increase your actual confidence.


Confidence can take a long time to obtain, but using these easy steps the road to a higher self-esteem will be a breeze. You just have to put in the effort. Good luck!

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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.
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Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

Suicidal thoughts are thought of in such black-and-white terms. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is there are some stuck in the gray area of those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead. You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255


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Not Only Does Lack Of Sleep Make You Cranky, But It Also Affects Your Relationships

In fact, the lack of sleep affects your ability to fully engage in healthy and long-lasting relationships.

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When I'm sleep deprived, I feel like the world is almost coming to an end. I'm the most cranky and irritable when I experience a lack of sleep. I'm sure many of you can relate to this and the struggles of it. It is one of the worst feelings to have because most of your actions get affected by it.

Sleep is an essential component in our lives because it provides us with the energy and resilience required to tackle memories and obstacles during the day. Usually, people who are sleep deprived will end up forgetting to complete simple tasks such as putting salt while cooking or picking something up from the patio. The inability to forget to do simple tasks stems from the lack of sleep experienced by many young adults like me.

As college students, we tend to underestimate the paramount importance of getting that target "8 hours" of sleep. Feeling sleepy while at a lecture is the eye-catching symptom for most sleep-deprived students and it is something that happens to me. In the same manner, sleep is closely tied to your relationships as well.

Recent studies have highlighted the fact that the amount of sleep you get does indeed affect your relationships. In fact, the lack of sleep affects your ability to fully engage in healthy and long-lasting relationships. You will most likely end up not reciprocating to what your significant other expects from you and that will end up straining the relationship even more. For instance, imagine if your S.O. wants to speak to you about something extremely important i.e. a life-changing decision. If you or your S.O. are sleep deprived, the conversation will go nowhere and chances are both of you will end up fighting.

Hence, sleep is crucial for the longevity of relationships as well as for your mental peace. Establishing a common bedtime is key towards developing a more closer bond with each other. In addition, mutual respect for each other's sleep patterns and work schedules plays a huge role in strengthening a couple's relationship. If both partners are able to balance their respective schedules, then they will still be able to spend some quality time together. Keep in mind, the cliché "8 hours" of sleep is extremely vital for a well-rested mind and body! You will end up becoming more productive throughout the day if you are not sleep deprived.

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