Take Advantage Of Today

Take Advantage Of Today

Understanding worth, without the pill bottle.

Why did the girl keep hitting herself with the hammer? Because it felt so good when she stopped.

Now re-read that above statement. Does it make sense? Does it hold weight? Who would do something like that to themselves? Well the answer is clear. Every one of us. The entire population on this planet will at some point of their life bow down before the hammer which continues to dent and dent into their existence. For those of you who I confused, no, it is not a real hammer, but it might as well be one considering the damage it may cause.

You see we live each day with this attitude of “I just have to get through today and start fresh tomorrow”, so we are all set ourselves up for failure without realizing that pessimist attitude that “there is always tomorrow”. Well not to be cliché but there is not ALWAYS a tomorrow if we don’t start taking advantage of today.

We are in a civilization with more opportunities, but less initiative. More companies, and less employed. Taller building with shorter tempers. Wider freeways with narrower visions. We hate our jobs but spend more time at work than with the people we love. We have more knowledge yet more problems every single day. We have more guns, but we feel less safe. We party to much, spend too much, complain too much, then laugh too little. We get angry when the internet won't load and find ourselves saying “please God please” in the moments of desperation to watch a Netflix episode.

We have more food than we could ever consume but less nutrition. We have increased our possessions but lowered out value. Increased our boundaries yet lower our loyalty. These days hold families with two incomes but more divorces. We talk more but forget how to actually listen. We are quick to judge but slow to accept others. We talk about cleaning the air yet pollute our own bodies. We have more information at our fingertips, more computers, more databases, more knowledge, yet we feel more empty and powerless than ever before.

Do any of those sound familiar? Do you see people throw around the word “love” like it has become an adjective yet hate themselves? Are there days when you look at your life and think, “it just has to be better than this”? Where would we be without social media, probably a lot friendlier, a lot more open to a conversation with a neighbor, and a lot less addicted to a screen the size of our palms. There are high schools posting suicide hotlines, teen pregnancy hotlines, homeless support hotlines… people in this generation just feel alone. It’s funny, I grew up in a town in North Texas and knew everyone in my grade since I was 8 all the way through graduation, I knew all my neighbors, anyone at the grocery store, and it was safe to ride my bike from my house to a lake down the street.

Today, the population had quadrupled, there are houses popping up like weeds, I recognize no one at the grocery store, and if you’re riding your bike to the lake, you carry some mace in your back pocket just in case. My sisters are consumed to their phones and iPads and tablets that their Vitamin D levels come from the radiation from their screens.

In other words, it’s sad. “Music” from this generation is slandering women as possession and endorsing substance abuse just to fit in. We are a part of the most brilliant generation known to man and we simply don’t care. We want more without working for it and expect what we don’t deserve. I am not here to preach and annoy you. I am here to simply say what we are thinking. That this is NOT okay. There isn’t a switch which disperses depression to the masses, we just can no longer comprehend how to deal with sadness, so we take a “happy pill” to pretend that the inevitable is not there. It isn’t anyone’s fault, but there is no one stopping it.

If your doctor tells you to take something, you will probably take it without researching it, without seeing long-term effects.

A study proved that 87% of doctors in the United States of America will prescribe medication to patients just to psychologically make them think they will be better when in actuality there is nothing wrong with them. It is the placebo effect where if your momma kisses your boo boo suddenly you feel fine, well is the scam we want to take care of our health? Kids are diagnosed with ADD and ADHD when they are in kindergarten and started on all sorts of medication from the time that they are FIVE YEARS OLD.

Yes, a five-year-old will get distracted, yes, a five-year-old will want to run around and talk to their friends, there is no need to start pumping amphetamine salts into their bodies which lead to lower appetite, depression, anxiety, agitation, restlessness, and we are prescribing this to children? In some cases, during teen and adult years, when the brain is fully or nearly fully developed it is understandable to need medication, but when you are five-years-old there isn’t a NEED for medication, it’s called being five.

It is a ripple effect in a way. You surround yourself with happy and positive people, you will naturally become a happy and positive person, but you find that one bad seed, and it will kill your crop. We need to stop blaming and judging others and start taking ownership of our own behavior. Stop blaming depression for making you sad and start finding effective ways to resolve it without a prescription bottle. Stop blaming your significant other on relationship problems and start looking at their side of it.

We love to be arrogant and self-entitled, but when it comes down to it, the world isn’t going to change overnight, but one step every day will leave a long-lasting effect which is worth the risk.

Cover Image Credit: Jenna Shelton

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Margliotti

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Being Skinny Isn’t As Great As You Think

A reflection on the struggles that come with a person's body image.


Body image. It is one of the most powerful and harmful things on a person's self-esteem. Society and media have placed so many images of what we "should" look like. How we need to be eating, exercising, dressing, EVERYTHING. According to others, we always need to change ourselves or second guess how we see our bodies.

For as long as I can remember everyone has called me "tiny". Sure, being small and being able to fit into a lot of clothes is fun, but being tiny or thin isn't always a good thing. I am your typical college kid eating whatever I want whenever I want.

The only difference between myself and other students is that I almost never gain weight. Some girls or guys may read that part and think that I have a gift or blessing. That I can do whatever I want and still stay small and "pretty".

Have you ever finished a meal then looked at yourself and felt like something wasn't right? Some people in today's world and in history will spend time looking at themselves and seeing multiple things that are wrong with their body.

Some handled that by exercising and losing weight or gaining muscle, others have gone as far as throwing up their food or taking pills that force their bodies not to gain ANY weight. Hearing about that from adults or doctors seems crazy but people do it all the time. Possibly the people around you and you would never know.

I went to middle school with a girl that always finished her lunch walking to the trash and then taking herself to the bathroom. She wouldn't come back to our table until the lunch bell rang. Most people didn't give a second thought to this situation, me however, I followed her one day. What I saw next was something I wasn't prepared for as a 7th grader.

Two sinks, a mirror, and three stalls. One was occupied and the rest were empty. I walked into crying and nothing else. The girl had already taken care of her food and was trying to gather herself after what she just did.

People told her that she was gaining weight, that she was "chunky" or fat. She wasn't the only girl around that dealt with horrible comments like that. It's also not just girls dealing with issues like this.

Boys and men are constantly judged and only "ideal" if they are muscular. Young boys are called pigs or disgusting only because of their weight and looking bigger than the "average" person. Men are downgraded to a lesser meaning when they are thin and "stick like".

Even as we grow up kids and sometimes adults say things without realizing the effect. Being called tiny or skinny all of the time can make someone just feel small. Getting comments to eat a hamburger and fries can make someone feel insulted.

Having comments made about your skin or hair and people making assumptions about you can make someone feel misunderstood or judged. Being told that you need to eat more or go tanning because your body doesn't "look right" can torture a person.

There are so many things that play into a person's self-esteem. Average size, too small or too big is simply just words coming out of someone's mouth that don't understand the true beauties in life.

Do you ever look at a big oak tree and say, "You're too fat, you should really lose some weight."

Do you ever see a flower that blooms smaller than a quarter and tells it, "You are tiny! Why don't you go eat a burrito or something?"

No. You probably don't. Just replace the oak tree with mom and see how that feels coming out of your mouth. Replace flower with a teenage girl and see if you can actually say all of those things. Imagine if you were a parent and it was your little girl or boy that you were talking to and you said those words. Would you be happy with yourself? Would you feel guilty? Would you push them to make their body unhealthy just to fit society's standards?

I hope that you wouldn't

There are so many of us out there being told what to do with ourselves in order to be happy with our bodies. How can someone else determine our happiness for us? I have personally gotten to the point of breaking.

I see friends on a daily basis that want to change their body because it's "ugly". Many of those thoughts are because of things society has put in our minds, and not what truly matters.

As a society, we need to push towards total acceptance. Now, I am not meaning the sexuality or ethnicity type of acceptance because those are important on a different level. Respecting each other and our bodies are something that needs to be understood and enforced as much as sexuality acceptance is pushed.

I want to live in a world and raise children in a world that doesn't make people feel horrible about their bodies. It is THEIR body, not ours. The only body we should be worrying about is our own. I want my future daughter to grow and love playing dress up without wondering if her body looks right in what she's wearing. I want my future son to go to gym class and be able to do only one pull up with all of the other boys cheering him on to do better.

Is that too much to ask?


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