Surround Yourself With People Who Make You Feel Like Sunshine, You Won't Regret It

Surround Yourself With People Who Make You Feel Like Sunshine, You Won't Regret It

Happy people are the best people.


You are who you surround yourself with and I always try to surround myself with people who not only bring positivity to my life but also happiness. I always want to stay grounded and I want to be around people who are down to Earth and genuine. I want to have friends in my life who are going to stick by you, no matter if the times are good or bad. I've made a promise to myself to surround myself with people who make me feel like sunshine.

What does this mean?

It means I want to be around people who make me smile, genuinely and who make me laugh, genuinely. I want to be around people who will make me feel good about myself. I think we all deserve that, right? They say laughter is the best medicine and I can't see myself being friends with people who can't make me laugh. For me, that's not healthy.

As humans, we need to feel emotions. We need to feel all of it. If we can't find joy and happiness in small things and comedy in the simplest ways, how can we really be living?

I've learned a huge life lesson. People can say all the nicest things in the book about being your friend, being there for you, wanting to be in your life, but those are just words. Their actions will truly prove themselves and if they aren't trying to show you that they really care, then maybe they aren't being honest with you AND themselves.

Think about your family and your friends and even your significant others. Are they making you feel special? Loved? Wanted and needed? Those are the people you need to keep close to you in life because they are the ones who are going to keep building you up when others are trying to bring you down. Don't take them for granted.

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I Ghosted My Old Self For 5 Months In An Effort To Reevaluate My Life

My life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.


BREAKING (not fake) NEWS: It's true, you have to hit your lowest before hitting your highest.

I want to share my lowest with you, and I'm almost ashamed to say it had nothing to do with the loss of both of my parents. I like to think I handled that like a warrior.

Turns out I didn't, and the hurt I've been burying from that hit me all at once, the same moment my life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.

My life flipped upside down overnight back in August. I had my heart broken shattered, lost two very important friendships that I thought were with me until the end, lost my 9-5 job, my health took a hit stronger than a boulder, and I was absolutely lost. For the first time, ever, I let go of the reigns on my own life. I had no idea how to handle myself, how to make anyone around me happy, how to get out of bed or how to even begin the process of trying to process what the f*ck just happened. I was terrified.

Coming from the girl who never encountered a dilemma she couldn't fix instantaneously, on her own, with no emotional burden. I was checked out from making my life better. So I didn't try. I didn't even think about thinking about trying.

The only relatively understandable way I could think to deal with anything was to not deal with anything. And that's exactly what I did. And it was f*cking amazing.

I went into hiding for a week, then went on a week getaway with my family, regained that feeling of being loved unconditionally, and realized that's all I need. They are all I need. Friends? Nah. Family. Only. Always.

On that vacation, I got a call from the school district that they wanted me in for an interview the day I come home. It was for a position that entailed every single class, combined, that I took in my college career. It was a career that I had just gotten my degree for three months before.

I came home and saw my doctor and got a health plan in order. I was immediately thrown into the month-long hiring process for work. I made it a point to make sunset every single night, alone, to make sure I was mentally caught up and in-check at the same exact speed that my life was turning. I was not about to lose my control again. Not ever.

Since August, I have spent more time with family than ever. I've read over 10 new books, I've discovered so much new music, I went on some of my best, the worst and funniest first dates, I made true, loyal friends that cause me zero stress while completely drowning me in overwhelming amounts of love and support, I got back into yoga, and I started that job and damn near fell more in love with it than I ever was for the guy I lost over the summer.

But most importantly, I changed my mindset. I promised myself to not say a single sentence that has a negative tone to it. I promised myself to think three times before engaging in any type of personal conversation. I promised myself to wake up in a good mood every damn day because I'm alive and that is the only factor I should need to be happy.

Take it from a girl who knew her words were weapons and used them frequently before deciding to turn every aspect of her life into positivity — even in the midst of losing one of my closest family members. I have been told multiple times, by people so dear to me that I'm "glowing." You know what I said back? F*ck yes I am, and I deserve to.

I am so happy with myself and it has nothing to do with the things around me. It's so much deeper than that, and I'm beaming with pride. Of myself. For myself.

I want to leave you with these thoughts that those people who have hurt me, left me, and loved me through these last couple of months have taught me

Growth is sometimes a lonely process.
Some things go too deep to ever be forgotten.
You need to give yourself the permission to be happy right now.
You outgrow people you thought you couldn't live without, and you're not the one to blame for that. You're growing.
Sometimes it takes your break down to reach your breakthrough.

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

My god, it's so f*cking good.

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You Are More Than A Social Status And So Are Your Friends

Stop choosing friends based off who will give you the best social status advantage.


If there is one thing I have learned throughout high school and college (so far), it's that you meet a lot of people and a lot of those people can drop you like it is nothing.

I have encountered more two-faced people than I can count, and several of the people I have met are interested in getting to know you up until they find out you aren't what they need to be popular or be loved by everyone.

Even today I can see girls that I know struggling to find the right people that will give them what they want, but they are looking for the wrong things. It doesn't matter how many friends you have, where your friends are on the so-called "social food chain", what sorority they are in, who they hang out with, if they sleep with enough guys, or if they have enough money.

I have seen girls go from friend group to friend group looking for the wrong things.

STOP. Like the saying goes, quality over quantity.

Social statuses are crap. They don't mean anything and are a fixture that is different in everyone's mind.

By focusing on how your friends can help you become better or how being friends with them can benefit you on the social food chain, you are setting yourself up for failure.

You want friends that will build you up sure, but for good things: support, love, care, and help you become a better person as a whole. You don't need a million friends to be validated. You need a friend or two or three or however many you may click with that are going to always have your back and you are always going to have theirs.

This also doesn't happen overnight and not every relationship is going to be perfect.

Don't let jealousy, envy, greed, or your own personal problems jeopardize a potentially good friendship.

Stop trying to use your friends, and start by just being a friend. It isn't about just you in friendships. It takes time and energy and support and love from both ends.

Find the people you can be yourself around, who will call you out on your crap, who will love you no matter what, and who will always be there to support you and have your back. You shouldn't be looking for minions or people who will bow down to everything you say and do. You should look for people who will challenge you to be better and to improve yourself in the best ways.

Don't look to the social status for validation.

Don't let the social status define you or define your friends.

You and your friends are so much more than that.

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