15 Struggles You've Had If You're The Oldest And Shortest Sibling

15 Struggles You've Had If You're The Oldest And Shortest Sibling

The struggle of having big, little siblings

It's hard enough to be a short person normally, in stores you can't reach what you need, at amusement parks you have to stand next to the height measurements. And being the oldest child can be a trip in itself, but here is a little testiment to how rough being short can be while also dealing with your younger siblings.

1. You get mistaken for the youngest child

Understandable, but still irritating.

2. They can communicate over your head

Somehow that means you're the one taking the garbage out.

3. Having to jog to catch up with them

How did you get across the parking lot so fast? It took me two seconds to lock the car!

4. They can hide things on the top shelf from you

You know that your mom just bought more chocolate pretzels, but you can't reach them.

5. They use you as an arm rest

When did this happen? How did they grow? You all have the same genes!

6. Your brother can hold things out of your reach

You're not an animal looking for a treat, but if you want whatever he has you kind of have to play along.

7. Your sister looks better in every outfit you borrow from her

Because she doesn't look like a little kid who got into their mom's closet when you both dress well.

8. They can't borrow most of your clothes

So they make sure to complain extra when you wear theirs.

9. You have to chauffeur them

You're tempted to just give them your license and set them loose, but you're still their older sibling so you'll take them.

10. When you hug now you have to put your arms lower

Because otherwise your feet are dangling off the ground.

11. Sometimes you get picked up and twirled like you're a toddler anyways

This isn't always bad, but in public? You're an adult! (Almost, kind of).

12. You're the "little big sister" or "little big brother"

Because just saying oldest sibling isn't enough anymore.

13. You have to be in the middle of every group photo

Otherwise you look like the Verizon bars steadily declining.

14. You always have to sit in the middle of the backseat

Seniority should get you out of it, but your short legs get you right back into it.

15. Group hugs are suffocating

Everyone else can rest over each other's shoulder while your face is stuck in armpits and chests. It's worth it though, when those group hugs are with your big little siblings.

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.

Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!


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9 Things Every Middle Child Will Understand... Not that anyone Else will remember them

I'm not saying it's hard being the middle child, but there are some clear challenges and perks of not being the youngest, but also not being the oldest.


As someone who has been the middle child for a little over 15 years, I've picked up a thing or two along the way. I even learned a few things from my parents, who are actually both middle children themselves. I'm not saying it's hard being the middle child, but there are some clear challenges and perks of not being the youngest, but also not being the oldest.

1. You're kind of the forgotten sibling.

Let's face it, everyone who is a middle child can attest that they are forgotten most of the time. Whether it be around the house or at large gatherings, people will be surprised to see you, even if they already saw you that day. However, this can work in your favor, as you can fly under the radar and avoid any situation within reason.

2. You went through the worst rebellious stage.

Your older sibling(s) may have had their rebellious stage, but yours was hardcore. You thought everything was unfair and wanted to make your own rules from the get-go. If you're like me, you cut your hair really short and bleached it. For others, it might be hanging out with certain people. Either way, you did something to make yourself stand out against your sibling(s).

3. You're always called your sibling's names before yours.

This one kind of goes along with #1. Growing up, I remembered my mom listing off my brother's and sister's names before getting to mine if she was mad or needed me. If it's a family member, like a grandparent, you've probably got ten or so names before they get to yours.

4. Your sibling's friends were some of your first friends.

This is especially true if your older sibling(s) is not significantly older than you. They may have hated it, but you thought it was so cool how they were allowed to have their friends over when you were younger. You always tried to join in on them, otherwise, you'd have to hang out with your younger sibling(s), which was the last thing you wanted to do.

5. You most likely had to share a room.

This is still true to this day. Since birth, you've probably shared a room with any sibling at one point. For this reason specifically, I don't think I could ever have a single dorm at school, solely because I don't know what it feels like to live without someone. One of the best perks of sharing a room was the bunk bed if you were lucky enough to have one.

6. Most of your clothes were hand-me-downs.

You'd get bags from your older sibling(s), your cousins, your aunts/uncles, anyone who had clothes to give away would give them to you first. For that reason, birthdays and Christmas were the best solely because you got brand new clothes that no one in your family had worn before.

7. You're always the mediator of fights.

Since you're right in the middle (quite literally), you most likely had to be the problem solver for a lot of disputes. Many times it was not helpful, but at least you were there to try and diffuse the situation.

8. You were involved in a lot of your older sibling's activities.

Anything from sports to extracurricular activities, you and your sibling(s) were involved in the same things. Personally, my older sister and I were gymnasts for years in the same class and worked on one musical together. I'll never know why we were thrown into gymnastics together, but have one extracurricular together was a lot of fun. Girl Scouts was another one, that we did together. We weren't in the same troop, but we did a lot of events together, so she was really never away from me until she left for college.

9. People who aren't middle children themselves just don't get it.

Being a middle child is something only a middle child can explain. We can't just show someone how it is to live as not quite the oldest, but not quite the youngest. The oldest never understand while the youngest has a bit of an idea. Only children will just never understand. It's a lifestyle that only the strongest can survive.

Even though we may complain, we always have someone younger to pick on and someone older to look up to, and I wouldn't change being a middle child for the world.

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