Stop Waiting On People Who Don’t Think You’re Enough

It’s Time To Stop Waiting On People Who Don’t Think You’re Enough

It's that one friend who never shows up. It's that one partner who never seems to follow through with their promises. It's that one family member who never thinks you're enough.

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It's that one friend who never shows up to meticulously planned outings. It's that one partner who never seems to follow through with their promises and will utter the words "I love you" but will never seem to be actually express these words in actions. It's that one family member who constantly puts you down and never thinks you're enough. It's that one teacher or professor who never believes in you and almost sets you up to fail. It's the people who will never think you are enough. These are the people who shouldn't be waited for anymore.

It may be hard to even see the times that they gaslight you or make you question your own sanity or when they carefully insert demeaning statements about you in conversations or never value your time and worth enough to be there for you. Eventually, over time, you'll see how you are less and less happy. You'll stop recognizing yourself after they twist your perception of your reality and self-image because of all the lies they've been telling you. They make you believe the pain you're holding back means you don't deserve to be happy and this type of relationship is what you deserve.

It's okay you'll tell yourself. This is how these types of relationships are. I can't hate my friend or family or partner or etc., that's not right. They aren't that bad. It's my fault, not theirs. I keep making lots of mistakes and this wouldn't happen if I wasn't who I am. There's always someone out there going through something worse. And these thoughts are the biggest mistakes. Being in a toxic relationship is never okay. Relationships are a two-way agreement, if one person decides to leave, it's over, no matter what society says the relationship should be like. It is never all our fault and people make mistakes, that's a part of life. These thoughts make us think that we have to be content being miserable. They make us think we have to settle for people who will never value us as much as we are worth, and that's why we have to leave when we recognize someone isn't good for us.

Our time is valuable, and we shouldn't have to be expecting cancellation of plans, unengaged conversations, or ignored messages from those who are valuable to us to the point we will never reach out to others again. Our emotions are precious and aren't meant to be contorted and played with to the point that we have no more self-love to give and are fearful of being vulnerable again. Our trust is never meant to be broken to a point that we have to continuously make excuses for them and will never be able to trust another again. Our love and all the care and time that comes with it is our most precious attribute. Our love shouldn't be stripped from us to the point we have no more left to give to ourselves and others in our lives and the new people we will find in the future who will really value us. We need to stand up for ourselves and say enough is enough.

It takes incredible strength to leave a toxic friendship or relationship. We are wrapped around their finger because they've made us believe we aren't enough, aren't lovable, and aren't sustainable without them by our side. But that is a lie. We were okay without them in our lives and will be okay now without them. You are strong. You are valuable. You are loved. If no one else in the world believes in you, at least have the strength to believe in yourself. You are worth more than to be disregarded constantly. You are worth more than what they have you believe. You are worth more than you think you are worth. You are worth happiness and love without them in your life. It's time to leave and live the life you deserve.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.
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Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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What It's Like To Hate Your Reflection When No One Thinks You Should

"OH MY GOSH! You are way too skinny to even think anything is wrong with you!"

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I honestly have spent a lot of time working to love myself, as we all should. It is a task that requires a lot of effort on a frequent basis because I will refuse to look at my body for weeks on end, knowing it is easier to pretend everything under my sweatshirt is as its' supposed to be.

But sometimes, a lot of times really, it is so hard to practice self-love when it comes to my body. I am a five foot something female and I have always struggled with maintaining a healthy weight. It mostly falls under 100 pounds, I know a lot of people hate me for even trying to complain about being so skinny but at some point, skinny is also unhealthy.

Please try and remember that the next time you slam down your skinny friend for complaining about something with their body, I would like to be able to look in the mirror and not see every single rib, skin, and bone.

It can be kinda tough, I am not very tall and weigh less than a fifth grader. That kinda sucks, could you imagine still being the exact height and weight from when you were in the prime of your elementary school years?

Who would want that? Do you understand how easily I could be pushed over by a teenager who is younger than me? So easily. The wind nearly knocks me over if it catches me off guard.

But, that is what makes me struggle so much with being empathetic with my body or crave a want to be proud of the skin and flesh that I am. I see pointy elbows, jutted out collarbones, and to me, that is pathetic and sad. But I am learning every day to be kinder to myself because it is worth it to give myself credit for the parts of my body that I do look at.

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