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This may sound absolutely ignorant coming from a very lucky girl whose parents have been together for about 17 years, but I'm tired of it. Divorce should not be romanticized, especially not in the media.

Three of my closest friends have divorced parents. And neither of their lives have been the same for years.

On April 2nd, Channing Tatum posted a photo of a message from him and his wife, Jenna Dewan.

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"Absolutely nothing has changed about how much we love one another," they wrote. "But love is a beautiful adventure that is taking us on different paths for now."

I am definitely not a relationship expert, but I do know that true love doesn't die. And if there's anything I've taken away from every single sappy romance movie, it's that if two people want to be together, they'll do just that.

I don't think it's right to normalize divorce. It has become such a phenomenon in society today that each time it happens, people aren't even slightly phased.

Personally, just the thought of divorce scares me. Not only does it affect the two people going through it, but also their children.

As aforementioned, three of my friends have divorced parents. And none of it has been pretty. I've watched my friends ponder the reasons their parents are no longer together, and even place part of the blame on themselves.

It breaks my heart. And fortunately I'm lucky enough not to understand the feeling, but I wish there was more I could do to help ease the pain.

I am in no way saying people shouldn't get divorced. People separate for a variety of reasons, and if it makes them happy, then I support it by all means. I just don't like how normalized divorce has become on the media and just in everyday life.

I also view Channing and Jenna's decision to publicly announce it as extremely brave, especially with social media today. It takes a lot to openly admit something as drastic as divorce, but it was smart of them to do so to avoid any "alternative facts ;)" as they quoted in their note.

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt.

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon.

Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom. And now Channing and Jenna.

"Love is dead" is the response many fans had to Channing and Jenna's note. I know it's almost a joke, but it makes me sad to see people's loss of hope in love as a whole.

Love is not dead. It's like a flower. It only dies if you let it.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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