I am twenty years young and in a serious relationship. It's all too often that I get small remarks from people I know (or don't know) who mean well, but they just don't get it.
1. "You're wasting your college years!"
Please tell me how being in a good, supportive relationship will ruin my college years.... Will that keep me from learning and passing my classes? Did you even know that's why students come to college? You know there are kids who go to school to learn, right? Okay honey, I'll let you think on that for a while.
2. "You're gonna miss all the fun"
Well staying out until 3 AM every Thursday night to get blackout drunk isn't exactly what I would call fun. Staying home and watching Netflix is what I call fun. So no, I'm not actually missing out on any fun.
3. "You'll regret this in a few years."
You think I am going to regret having someone who loves and supports me while I go through the tough times and the mental breakdowns that college brings? You think I'll regret the nights I got a good nights sleep when everyone else was partying? You think I'll regret all the classes I passed because I wasn't preoccupied with the all the other "normal college things"? Think again.
4. "Don't you want to be with your friends?"
Ummmmm, I am with my friends. I see them every day in one way or another. And actually, for your information, my boyfriend is my best friend forever and I get to start that forever now so I count myself blessed.
5. "You should try and be more independent."
First off, the only person I depend on completely is Jesus. Second, tell me what's wrong with having someone I know I can rely on when I need a little help? I can depend on my boyfriend for anything, from just listening to me when I need to rant to getting me food when I'm hungry to helpING me study for a test. And that's a nice thing to have around.
6. "You'll miss out on the college experience!"
I realize that I am young. I even realize that there are a lot of "typical" college experiences that I might miss out on because of my relationship status. But honestly, those typical experiences aren't something I want to be apart of in the first place. Why would I want to be a drunk girl at frat parties who embarrasses herself when I can be lazy on my boyfriend's couch eating cake?
I understand you think you're helping me by offering these little nuggets of wisdom, or maybe you think you're just being funny, but next time you open your mouth to say something like this to me do us both a favor and don't.
