No, Women Don't Owe Men Anything For Their Basic Respect

No, Women Don't Owe Men Anything For Their Basic Respect

It's called basic human decency, and you shouldn't be praised for it. Stop glorifying men.
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Nothing makes me more upset than seeing women sell themselves short. Within the past few years, the bar has been set disgustingly low in the ways that men are treating women. What I mean by that is, the younger generation of girls are making it abundantly clear that it doesn't take much for a guy to impress them. And their expectations for the way that men treat them are so low that sometimes they praise men for doing extremely mundane things.

Most of this takes place on social media. Think about all the times you've been scrolling through Twitter and you see a tweet that says something like "guys who hold the door open for you >>>" followed by one too many heart-eye emojis.

Oh, yes. People really do tweet things like this. They glorify men who do really simple things that any decent human should be held accountable to do. Things like this:

What?!?! What boys are you hanging out with that refuse to hold a door open for you, let alone hold a conversation? Shouldn't this just be a given?

Really? That is the reason you still have faith in humanity?

Or maybe they're just nice people? Stop praising this!

Yeah, the bar for men is really set so low that I could literally trip over it.

And we could sit here and chalk all of this up to a few people who don't know what politeness is. But a quick search on Twitter of the keywords "boys who hold the door for you" will show you that far too many girls have this mindset. But why?

Why is the bar set so low? Why have we been lowering it even further in recent years?

While I don't have the best answers for those questions, I can tell you why it's a problem. If boys, especially young boys, grow up around the mindset that they will be rewarded for showing women kindness and being polite, they are going to grow into some seriously entitled jerks. Women don't owe men anything for respecting them, and they certainly shouldn't expect to be praised for doing so.

We're not throwing you a party when you act like a decent human being.

It's an even bigger problem for young girls who are growing up in an environment where they are taught to lower their standards. We should be RAISING the bar and we should be able to RAISE our standards for men. We should not raise girls to accept the bare minimum, and instead, we should raise them to expect equal respect from everyone they encounter, if not more in romantic relationships, where low expectations can be hazardous.

Thankfully, one girl on Twitter actually gets it:


Girls should be allowed to want boys to treat them kindly without the fear of being called "high-maintenance." Girls should be allowed to want more out of a romantic relationship than the bare minimum of simple respect. Let's get it together here, ladies. We're better than that.

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'As A Woman,' I Don't Need To Fit Your Preconceived Political Assumptions About Women

I refuse to be categorized and I refuse to be defined by others. Yes, I am a woman, but I am so much more.

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It is quite possible to say that the United States has never seen such a time of divisiveness, partisanship, and extreme animosity of those on different sides of the political spectrum. Social media sites such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are saturated with posts of political opinions and are matched with comments that express not only disagreement but too often, words of hatred. Many who cannot understand others' political beliefs rarely even respect them.

As a female, Republican, college student, I feel I receive the most confusion from others regarding my political opinions. Whenever I post or write something supporting a conservative or expressing my right-leaning beliefs and I see a comment has been left, I almost always know what words their comment will begin with. Or in conversation, if I make my beliefs known and someone begins to respond, I can practically hear the words before they leave their mouth.

"As a woman…"

This initial phrase is often followed by a question, generally surrounding how I could publicly support a Republican candidate or maintain conservative beliefs. "As a woman, how can you support Donald Trump?" or "As a woman, how can you support pro-life policies?" and, my personal favorite, "As a woman, how did you not want Hillary for president?"

Although I understand their sentiment, I cannot respect it. Yes, being a woman is a part of who I am, but it in no way determines who I am. My sex has not and will not adjudicate my goals, my passions, or my work. It will not influence the way in which I think or the way in which I express those thoughts. Further, your mention of my sex as the primary logic for condemning such expressions will not change my adherence to defending what I share. Nor should it.

To conduct your questioning of my politics by inferring that my sex should influence my ideology is not only offensive, it's sexist.

It disregards my other qualifications and renders them worthless. It disregards my work as a student of political science. It disregards my hours of research dedicated to writing about politics. It disregards my creativity as an author and my knowledge of the subjects I choose to discuss. It disregards the fundamental human right I possess to form my own opinion and my Constitutional right to express that opinion freely with others. And most notably, it disregards that I am an individual. An individual capable of forming my own opinions and being brave enough to share those with the world at the risk of receiving backlash and criticism. All I ask is for respect of that bravery and respect for my qualifications.

Words are powerful. They can be used to inspire, unite, and revolutionize. Yet, they can be abused, and too comfortably are. Opening a dialogue of political debate by confining me to my gender restricts the productivity of that debate from the start. Those simple but potent words overlook my identity and label me as a stereotype destined to fit into a mold. They indicate that in our debate, you cannot look past my sex. That you will not be receptive to what I have to say if it doesn't fit into what I should be saying, "as a woman."

That is the issue with politics today. The media and our politicians, those who are meant to encourage and protect democracy, divide us into these stereotypes. We are too often told that because we are female, because we are young adults, because we are a minority, because we are middle-aged males without college degrees, that we are meant to vote and to feel one way, and any other way is misguided. Before a conversation has begun, we are divided against our will. Too many of us fail to inform ourselves of the issues and construct opinions that are entirely our own, unencumbered by what the mainstream tells us we are meant to believe.

We, as a people, have become limited to these classifications. Are we not more than a demographic?

As a student of political science, seeking to enter a workforce dominated by men, yes, I am a woman, but foremost I am a scholar, I am a leader, and I am autonomous. I refuse to be categorized and I refuse to be defined by others. Yes, I am a woman, but I am so much more.

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The New Season of 'Doctor Who' Is Finally Giving More Diverse Characters A Chance

With its new, more diverse main cast and Jodie Whittaker taking on the role of the Doctor, the eleventh season is opening the door for a more inclusive "Doctor Who," where anyone can be the hero of the story.

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Sunday, October 7 marked the highly anticipated premiere of the 11th season of "Doctor Who." This is a landmark event in the show's history. The show is almost completely new with a new logo and Chris Chibnall as the new showrunner. But what's drawing the most attention is the new casting. Jodie Whittaker debuted as the 13th Doctor and is the first woman to play the role of the Doctor. Joining her are three more new cast members, playing the Doctor's companions: Bradley Walsh as Graham O'Brien, Tosin Cole as Ryan Sinclair, and Mandip Gill as Yasmin Khan.

Jodie Whittaker's casting was first announced in July 2017. There were both positive and negative reactions to the first female Doctor. Many were excited to see the show casting a woman as the lead, while others were less receptive to the idea and announced that they would no longer be watching the show. For many fans, a female Doctor has been a long time coming, as it was widely pointed out that the role has always been played by a white man. When Peter Capaldi's final season as the Doctor was announced, a number of predictions for who the next Doctor would be included actresses such as Helena Bonham-Carter and Tilda Swinton.

The show had also hinted at a female Doctor: Michelle Gomez was cast as the first woman to play the role of the Master, the Doctor's long-time nemesis, for the ninth and tenth seasons of the show. In the two-part tenth season finale, when asked the question "Is the future going to be all girl?" Peter Capaldi's Doctor responded, "We can only hope." With such a widely-known series as "Doctor Who," casting a woman in a role that has always been played by men is monumental, and definitely makes the role of the Doctor that much more inclusive and attainable for everyone.

While Jodie Whittaker's playing the leading role has drawn much attention, the casting of her Doctor's companions has also garnered praise from fans. The companions in the new series have been almost exclusively young women, most of them white. The Doctor now has three companions at once, all with backgrounds that have been scarce in the companions of the new series: Graham O'Brien is an older man, Yasmin Khan is a South Asian woman, and Ryan Sinclair is a black man with dyspraxia, a coordination disorder. As in Jodie Whittaker's casting, the main roles of the companions now appear to be more inclusive, with the representation of people who can rarely see themselves in such a large role.

Ryan Sinclair's character, in particular, has been praised for having dyspraxia, which is very rarely portrayed in television or film. He is shown trying and failing to ride a bicycle due to his disorder, something that many people with dyspraxia could immediately relate to. Ryan is not shown as an inspirational character overcoming his disability, as many disabled people are portrayed in the media, but as a normal person who also happens to have this disorder.

This season of "Doctor Who" is looking to be an impactful one. With its new, more diverse main cast and Jodie Whittaker taking on the role of the Doctor, the eleventh season is opening the door for a more inclusive "Doctor Who," where anyone can be the hero of the story.

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