Stop Comparing Your Success To The Success Of Others

Stop Comparing Your Success To The Success Of Others

You won't be successful in doing this.


"I wish I had her body, I'd love to be that skinny"

"Man, if I had his muscles, I'd be so much more attractive"

"Their car is so much better than mine"

"They live such a better lifestyle than I do".

Comparing ourselves to others seems to be something so minor in our lives that we may not notice the negative build up from it after time. We all know how toxic it can be for us, especially when we compare things like our appearance and our lifestyle. Along with these two things we shouldn't be comparing I think there is one more that may have a larger impact that we may not be realized, this would be comparing our own success to that of others.

We look at what others have achieved and sometimes think it somehow trumps our own success. It can be as simple as you being proud of yourself that you got a 90% on a test, but suddenly getting upset with yourself when you hear your friend got a 100% on the same test. Seconds ago you were immensely proud of yourself for getting an A on the exam, but then became upset because you deemed that A not good enough once you heard the grade your friend got.

I know for myself I should listen to my own advice when it came to my freshman year of college. I was in a class setting where the professor praised kids who got an internship over this current summer, like having the kid stand up in class and have everyone start clapping kind of praising. This really made me feel like I wasn't accomplishing what I was supposed to be during this stage of my life.

I had to stand back and look at the bigger picture, I was indeed comparing the success of my classmates to my own. Though they ended up with an internship opportunity, I accomplished so many little things over my first two semesters of college.

I got accustomed to living away from home, adapted to a college schedule, met many new friends, had an amazing GPA, joined a club, and declared a major after being undecided when I first came to school.

These are all successes to me, and I had always been proud of myself for all of these minor things, but I came at fault to comparing my little accomplishments to someone's major success. When you step back and look at it, you can realize how unhealthy it can be for yourself when you begin to do this.

What I can take from this, and advise others to do, is to acknowledge what you have achieved, no matter the scale of what it is, and be super proud of yourself. Also, if you are super proud of yourself, don't diminish how content you are with yourself because you think what someone else is accomplishing is "so much" better than what you are.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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