We all know the girl I'm talking about, who posts every day about her relationship to the point where you wonder if there's anything private about it at all. If you are that girl, I'm suggesting you lay off on the excessive posting, the gushy essays, and the endless photos- at least a little bit. Trust me, I think it's great that you are happy in your relationship and want everyone to know it, but I think that the progression of social media has taken away a key part of romance: the fact that it's something between you and another person, not you two and the whole world.
STOP with the #MCM. He's your boyfriend, isn't it assumed that he's your "man crush"? There's no need to remind all of your friends, family, and followers how much you love this guy every. single. Monday. And don't make it even worse by adding that he's your man crush every day, because obviously everyone thought you only liked him on Mondays because of your hashtag. If you want to remind your man how much he means to you, send him a thoughtful text or cook him a surprise dinner, it's not necessary to make a public service announcement about it.
Don't write on his Facebook wall. This one I have yet to figure out, and I'm assuming it's just a cry for people to notice how happy you are in your relationship, which is a huge red flag. You want to tell your boyfriend you miss him? Give him a call. You want to congratulate him on getting that promotion? Take him out to dinner! "Can't wait to see you tomorrow bae! XoXo" or "Happy 37 week anniversary lovey!'" on Facebook is really not an appropriate way to communicate with your significant other. If you're doing it for people to see, which is the only reason I can imagine that differentiates that from a text, you should re-evaluate the situation. Are you in the relationship because you like this person or because you want "you guys are so cute!" with some heart sticker commented on your post?
Post pictures! Just not every single one. I'm not saying you should hide the fact that you're in a relationship from the world. Be proud of your man! If you take a cute picture at that museum you went to, show everyone! But is it necessary to take and then post pictures of every dinner you go out to, movie you watch, and other random selfies? Probably not. Your friends and family want to see you happy, and see you with someone that makes you happy, so don't be afraid to show them! Just be considerate of how much you're showing, because while they love that photo from formal, the picture of you two in line for Chipotle is maybe best kept to just a quick Snapchat. You should enjoy your time together for what it is, don't just make it into a sharing opportunity!
Don't get too mushy on social media. This can accompany all my previous requests. If you do post, make it cute, but don't over do it. By this I mean, leave the pet names out and refrain from dragging on about how perfect he is to the point where you have to view more on your Insta caption. It's important to let your man know how much he means to you every day, but think about how many more thoughtful ways there are than just posting a picture you think you look cute in with a caption thats repetitive of your previous five posts. Those who matter will be able to know what an amazing boyfriend you have by how happy he makes you every day, and they don't need to read weekly novels to remind them... and you shouldn't have to convince yourself of this while writing them either.
There are definitely exceptions to these guidelines. For example, if it's his birthday give him a huge public shout out, just make sure you do something more personal as well. Anniversary? Sure, share it with the world if that's what you want! Just don't lose sight of the fact that on your anniversary you should be celebrating how happy you make each other, everything you've overcome together, and the future of your relationship- and a social media post or shout out on twitter may not be the best way to do so.
