"Why do you always look like you're upset?"

"You should smile more."

"What's wrong?"

"You don't seem like a happy person."

"You must be depressed."

"Why are you always miserable?"

"Are you sure you're ok?

"Why don't you smile more often?"

This is a list of actual quotes that are often said to me.


My face is naturally what it is.

Unfortunately, it is naturally RBF (resting b*tch face).

RBF is when your natural facial expression seems like you are angry, upset or irritated when you aren't expressing any emotion at all.

You might think, "RBF? No, you just don't smile. You're upset all the time."

But I'm not. It's a legitimate issue, even the Queen of England has it.

I am not upset all the time. Nor am I depressed. And I'm not miserable.

It's. Just. My. Face.

I don't even realize that I'm making the (perceived) RBF, because it's just how my face naturally appears. Believe me, you'll be able to tell when I'm actually upset.

So please, stop telling me and all the other people with RBF to smile (because telling someone to smile doesn't make them actually want to smile).