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Stop Apologizing For Being "Too Much"

You will be too much for some people. And that's okay because those aren't your people.

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Stop Apologizing For Being "Too Much"
J Temple

"Don't worry if you're making waves simply by being yourself. The moon does it all the time." -Scott Stabile

It happened to me just the other day in class. After stating my opinion about homelessness, the kid behind me said, "yeah okay, says the girl who is too passionate." Too passionate? How is that a bad thing..? I thought about it for several hours and came to this conclusion: you will always be too much of something for someone. Be yourself anyway.

So what if you’re too loud, too big, too nice, too emotional, too edgy. If you round out your edges, you lose your edge. You lose what really makes you who you are, and the right people will absolutely love who you are. They will love the loud you. The emotional you. The passionate you. Apologize for making mistakes, apologize for doing others wrong. Abundantly. But don’t ever apologize for being who you are.

So, kid who thinks I’m too passionate, I have a few words to share with you. There is nothing wrong with caring and being passionate about everything. I will never apologize for my enthusiasm, never ever. You weren’t capable of handling my kind of love and that is your issue, not mine. Don’t worry about what I’m doing, worry about why you are worried about what I’m doing. The fact of the matter is you cannot please everyone. People pleasing hides the real you anyway. “Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” –Dr. Suess

When you find those people who accept you and all of your “too much”, never let them go a day without knowing you care about them. You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. For some reason we are all afraid to feel too deeply, say too much, and let people know what they mean to us. Being vulnerable is nothing to be ashamed of. There is something so breathtakingly lovely in the moments of lesser magic that occur when you strip down and are honest with those who are important to you. Tell your mother you love her in front of your friends. Let that girl know she inspires you. Tell your friends they are truly beautiful. Be daring in who AND how you love. There is bravery in that.

Remember: You will be too much for some people. And that's okay because those aren't your people.

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