4 Simple Steps To De-Stress

4 Simple Steps To De-Stress

No matter what your situation, here's four simple ways to re-center yourself.

Here's the reality: life isn't always peaches and cream and school and work and relationships can sometimes make us really, really stressed out. It's not always easy to just sit down and relax when you have that constant to-do list running in your head. But, relaxing when you're really stressed is very important. Here are a few steps to get you started on that path to relaxation if you're struggling with where to begin:

1. Get Active

For years, my parents have always told me when I'm stressed to workout or go on a bike ride and breathe in some fresh air. I thought it was silly, until I put it into practice. Now I'm in college and every free chance I get, I go swimming or do some yoga or take a dance class. Working out kicks up your endorphins which are natural pain-killers, and it actually helps you sleep better! Sleeping better is a no-brainer -- it automatically relieves some of your stress. Another thing about physical activity is that it's practically mindless work -- you're only focused on your body (And if you do yoga like me, not falling over) so there's no time to worry about that to-do list lurking in the back of your head.

2. Prioritize

One of the things that causes me the most stress in life is thinking about what it is I have to get done, and how much time I have to do it. Meet with an advisor, finish a paper, make a doctors appointment, etc...These are all things on a never-ending list, along with others, that maybe you need to get done soon. Since beginning college, I've found that the most important thing to do is to prioritize. Keep a schedule or a planner, and map out everything that needs to get done right now, so that you can move on to the due-dates coming up later. Getting what absolutely needs to be done out of the way will help you relax a little more, and maybe you'll find that you do have time to go to coffee with your friends.

3. Take Some Time To Yourself

Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, there's evidence that says hanging out for a little while by yourself can be really beneficial. Sometimes it's important to turn down the lights and take a little nap, or indulge in your favorite movie or book and sit by yourself for a while. It can be stressful to be caught up in a big group of people day after day, whether that's at work or at school, and sometimes you really need to get away from the noise. So put on some music and take some time by yourself to do something that you love.

4. Breathe, Breathe, Breathe

Last but not least, remember to take a deep breath. If it's the only thing you do, it's important. Get oxygen into your lungs and flowing through your body. It's essential to take a deep breath sometimes in order to calm down, de-stress, and re-center your mind and body. You got this!

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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Goodbye To Our Favorite Family Member

Our bond with you, Skippy, will always be forever.


After 14 or some years my family and I faced a difficult situation we never thought we would come to. I thought it would be easy putting my dog, Skippy, down but after it, a lot of things came to my mind that I never noticed. I regret taking the smallest moments for granted. I never appreciated the memories with Skippy that seemed to be pointless at the moment but in the end, they mattered the most now.

At the randomness times, he pops into my mind. There will never be a time where my siblings and I argue and fuss over who is going to take the dog out. As much as we butted heads over it, I wish I could take him out one more time while arguing with my siblings for old times' sake.

What I will miss the most is his presence. Watching television with him right by my side and picking him up and hugging him will no longer happen anymore. Even coming home from a long day or late at night, you would see Skippy perched at the window waiting for you. Now I pull up and he is not present. My family and I still continue to worry about picking things up from the floor and shutting doors, yet we no longer have to. We have habits that we have been used to for so long and now we have to quit them.

It hasn't been awhile but since I have been home, I have picked up on some moments where Skippy made an impact on our lives. There was a moment where my dad and I were eating in the kitchen and he dropped a chip. Normally, my dad would yell at Skippy to eat it but this time around there was a long pause. Before my family and I would leave my dad would call us wondering who left the dog out before we left. However, this time around Skippy wasn't there to be left out before we left the house. The days in the house seem quieter than what they used to be and the nights seem odder. Skippy was definitely another member of the Meehan household.

I never realized how big of an influence Skippy had on my life and for the rest of my family. It will be a change for all of us to fill the hole where Skippy mattered. It will take some time to get used to it but in the end, this was best for Skippy and we all have to come to terms with it. Skippy will always be by our side whether it is sleeping on the couch or whining at the door, he will be present through our daily lives in a different, unique way.

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