The transition to college is a difficult one -- learning to do your own laundry, having to make your own decisions. One decision many high school seniors are faced with the summer before college is whether to stay with their significant other or go their separate ways.
Most people don’t choose to stay together, because college gives you a new freedom and you meet so many new people. They think that long-distance relationships are too hard. A lot of people in high school relationships decide to mutually break up and remain “friends.”
I chose to stay with my high school boyfriend. Of course, I was told that “it’s better to go to college single” and I’ve been asked multiple times, “How is it being in college with a boyfriend?” but I am so glad my boyfriend and I chose to stay together. Although choosing to stay with your high school sweetheart is difficult, it is also very rewarding. It’s going to be hard at times, but you should stay with your high school sweetheart and here’s why.
You have a mutual understanding of what the other person has been through in the past.
Life is a complicated thing. Sometimes things are thrown at us and we can’t find a reason why it had to happen. But having someone who you can trust 100 percent and you can tell everything to helps. They were with you all through high school and saw how your experiences have changed you. Yeah, if you started over with someone new you could tell them about your life-changing experiences, but they will never understand the effects like someone who saw what you went through first-hand.
He or she is already your best friend.
You know each other better than you know yourselves. You laugh at all the same things and know exactly what Facebook posts to tag each other in to cheer the other up. You know everything about each other. They’re close with your family and your pets. You know exactly what they’re going to say before they even say it. You can rant to them about your first F on a college exam or about your professor that you swear is trying to fail you. They’ll know exactly what to say to make you feel better. You not only have a significant other, but he or she is also your best friend.
You don’t have to deal with the people who come to college expecting only hook-ups.
College is portrayed as a cesspool of hook-ups and partying in media, so a lot of people come to college single and expecting hook-ups. But when you come to college with a significant other, you don’t have to worry about trying to weed out the bad guys. You are past the stage of only wanting hook-ups, and you know exactly what you want and deserve.
You are able to grow together.
People change as life goes on, and college is a huge transition that changes everybody. Staying with each other through such a big transition and through a long distance proves how strong your relationship is. You learn to accept that person for who they are and who they become as time goes on. It’s going to be tough, but if you make if through college and all the struggles that come with it, then that is proof that it’s meant to be.
