Most people spend their time on this earth planning and preparing for their future. You are born, then at the age of 5, or maybe even 3 or 4, you start going to school. Why? Because your parents want you to succeed and to do what you need to have an education so that you can have a good job one day and make something of your life. So you go to school until you are about 18 because you have to.
Finally, one day you graduate high school, but not before making several decisions for your future. You have to take the SAT, you have to apply to colleges, you have to try and attempt to choose a good major, even though you will probably change it a couple of times before all is said and done. After spending 18 years of your life planning for your future, you go to college where once again, you are planning for your future. What should you major in? Should you even stay in school? Should you change your major because of one hard class or should you just keep pushing through? What are you going to do with the rest of your life?
Am I going to meet the person that I will spend the rest of my life with? Question after question after question, trying to find the answers of what your life will be like in the future. Aside from being in school and having to deal with finding a good career, you then, if you are anything like me, have tried planning your love life out too, because we are so conditioned to just plan for our futures and know exactly what we want to do with our lives.
I have known since I was a little girl that I want a big wedding, but more than just planning my wedding out, I have attempted to plan out the perfect guy, and along with that I have a timeline of when all of these wonderful things should happen in my life. I had a rude awakening when I came to college a year ago and found out that just because I was suddenly in college, that did not mean that all boys had suddenly become more mature or even ready to be in a relationship. I started my freshman year expecting to find that perfect guy, however that didn't happen. Since then, it has been about a year and a half, and I have learned so much. Without struggle, there is no growth. You have to learn from your choices and mistakes to grow and become the person you are meant to be.
I am challenging you to live each day for the moment. Stop always trying to plan this perfect future, because odds are your idea of your perfect future is not God's idea of your perfect future. Just take each moment and make the most of it. Stop being sad, or mad or angry, and wake up each day and choose to be happy and make it better than it was the day before. Everything will work out in time, and it probably won't be on our timeline. Just live for the present and be happy with where you are right now.
Planning for the future is all I have ever done. I have finally taken a step back and stopped trying to live my life on a timeline and just let the chips fall where they may. I am living in the present, and enjoying every minute of it.
