Anger, resentment, bitterness—we’ve experienced these emotions in some way or another, toward a boyfriend or a parent or a loved one, but most of the time, not speaking out and keeping your thoughts bottled up play a major role in these feelings and emotions festering until they are all consuming. There has been many times I’ve felt like a doormat, like people are walking all over me, but for a long time, I was allowing it because I convinced myself it was okay for my friends or a loved one to treat me with disrespect or as if I'm inferior to them since they had a bad day or they “didn’t know any better."
Some days, I felt like I was going to burst with anger when I felt continuously taken advantage of, but I let that anger mount up by making up mediocre excuses to justify their actions towards me. Everybody has circumstances and everybody has an excuse, but at the end of the day, I need to stand in my truth and to only allow healthy and uplifting relationships that show a mutual respect. Therefore, boundaries are completely necessary and should be placed accordingly so you don’t sacrifice what you want and need to please anyone else.
In life, there are moments that make us feel extremely blessed and thankful and then there are moments that leave us wondering and questioning just about everything, but I’m learning that those moments you cringe thinking about are the ones that truly shape your thought process and what you choose to do and allow. Hardships and heartbreak show you where you need to set boundaries and how you need to go about doing so because in order to stand in your truth, your thoughts, your words, and your actions should be in alignment. That’s why, I refuse to do anything that doesn’t better me for following my dreams and aspirations and I won’t allow people in my life who don’t treat me as if I am worthy, capable, and resilient.
I’ve come to the conclusion that communication is really everything; you don’t know what is going through someone else’s mind or how they feel unless they express it to you, and the anger or resentment or bitterness you have may be towards someone who is oblivious as to why you feel that way. Tell them. Be real. Be open. Instead of expecting people, even the ones you are closest with, to understand you, convey yourself and your feelings in a way that they’ll understand or know where you are coming from. Nothing ever changes if you don’t speak up or take actions that promote what you’re saying and thinking. In order to live life to the fullest, be in raw form and embrace the truths that make you who you are.
