You don’t find your soul mate. You choose your soul mate.
We’ve been born and raised to believe that after all the chaos of dating and hookups, the end result is ultimately to find our soul mate, our person. That no matter what kind of bulls**t romantic interests put us through, it’s all worth it in the end because of that one special person we have yet to find.
Well, I’m here to tell you that that’s a bunch of crap, and more and more people are realizing it. Whether you believe in soul mates or not, It’s important.
People fall in love easily. It’s a great feeling, when everything is new and fresh and exciting and you can’t stop thinking about that person, and you wonder literally where they have been all your life. Eventually you come to a point in your relationship where you tell yourself you can’t live without this person. Well, you can. You just don’t want to.
And that, my friends, is where my moral of the story comes into play. There are so many people, gorgeous people, on this planet -- roughly 7 billion -- and you’re telling me that there really is only one person I’m meant to be with for the rest of my life? Call me crazy if that’s a scary concept.
I do believe that there are certain people that are meant to enter our lives for a reason, and I do believe that people are meant to find a great love, even if that’s not who you quote unquote end up with.
There are many people in this planet that you could get along with; there will always be someone who thinks you're funny, has the same values as you, drives you crazy and you are insanely attracted to. There will also always be someone more funny, more smart and more attractive than you. Never for once should this belittle your own worth. But rather, use that line of thinking to understand that there are so many beautiful people on this planet, inside and out. And when you happen along a person who encompasses all the things you want in life and more, and sees these qualities in you, you choose them.
Temptation is real, but so are soul mates. It’s all a matter of choice. You choose how you argue, how you compromise, how you love. You choose your soul mate every day, again and again. It may sound hard, but when it is the right person, that choice is the easiest one you'll ever make.
