It's about that time of year when all sorority hopefuls devote two weekends (give or take, depending on what school you go to) to finding their perfect sorority match. And while it sounds good on paper, there are often times when it's hard to know which chapter is the best for you. It's important that you keep these things in mind in order to weed out the options that might not be the best and find a home for you.
Do you feel comfortable?
Can you picture yourself there? If you don't feel comfortable in the setting, whether you feel like you are on edge or that the girls around you don't reflect your same 'vibes,' that sorority may not be the one for you. Most of the time, your gut is telling you the right thing.
Do these girls reflect the same morals and values as you?
During recruitment, we tend to get lost in the smoke and mirrors of it all. But being a part of a sorority goes far beyond what your Bid Day theme is, or how many "pretty girls" the sorority has. You should make sure that the girls around you have the same values as you. Creating a strong and thriving chapter includes being ambitious, being kind, being genuine. If you don't see those values being demonstrated in a chapter, it might not be worth it.
Are you making real connections?
After recruitment, pretty much no one wants to talk about their major and hometown again. It's important that you are making actual connections, and not just having a conversation to fill the allotted time spent at a house. Most of the time, when you create a genuine connection, the conversation flows easily and goes beyond the basics. This can be a tell-tale sign if it's the 'right' sorority.
Are you being yourself?
Perhaps the most important of all. Are you putting on a show, a facade, or are you being your true and genuine self? If you are acting like someone you're not (which is tempting to do during rush with the desire to please the sisters of the sororities), you'll never know if you actually belong. Putting on a face is exhausting, and can't be kept up your entire time as a part of the organization. Be sure to be your true self-- if they like you for who you are, then that is the most important thing of all.
