Something is seriously wrong with me. By that I mean, I am completely aware that I have my own flaws. We spend every moment we can comparing ourselves to others, and trying to point out our own faults. We need to realize having imperfections is what makes us so unique and amazing.
No one wants to be a perfect walking Barbie doll. A LOT of teenagers today think that’s what they want, but our lives would be beyond boring if that were the case. Everyone talks about magazines and social media being the biggest culprit as to what we depict as perfect today. If you asked me, I’d say our peers are the biggest issue. Girls surround us in school dressing like they can afford to buy gold plated shoes. Not only that, we started wearing makeup and getting our hair cut in the latest trends in elementary school. If you aren’t up to speed on the latest trends, you can be seen as a loser or not good enough.
Something is seriously wrong with me. I don’t have the perfect height, or the perfect face structure. My eyelashes aren’t long enough and my eyebrows aren’t “on fleek”. I laugh when I shouldn’t, and I cry when I don’t need to. I don’t have my future mapped out, and I stress out when someone tells me they do. I get mad when things don’t go my way, and I’m ecstatic when they do. The amount of flaws we could all list about ourselves is way too much in comparison to how many strengths we have. We are all too focused on looking just right and acting just perfectly.
Talk is centered around how we try to perfect our physical flaws, but it is rarely discussed how our behaviors have been shaped. Headlines seem to center around celebrities gaining ten pounds, or the new workout craze. We forget that reality TV shows and the way teenagers talk and act encourage us to act out against our norm. We spend so much time trying to perfect every behavior of ours, when we see someone else acting out against that we’re disgusted and annoyed. If you stop to think and look at why you hate that behavior it may be out of jealousy, we miss when we didn’t care. We miss when we didn’t sit up straight and try to act mature.
“You’re perfect the way you are.” We hear this quote from just about every relative we have growing up. While it is true that in your imperfections, you are perfect; it’s hard for us to believe that we couldn’t be better. Realizing that you can improve yourself in a healthy manner, and not going to crazy over little things (i.e. your nose structure) will get you to be just as confident as you need to be.
Is something seriously wrong with me? You realize that your friendships shift and things around you change whether you’re trying to better yourself or not. Stop living in the past and trying to fix what is inevitable, and start loving yourself.
“Happiness means loving yourself and being less concerned with the approval of others.” Owen Campbell Jr.
