Why Some People Don't Like Christmas

Why Some People Don't Like Christmas

It's not so holly and jolly for a lot of people.
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Honestly, I really don't see Christmas as "the most wonderful time of the year" for more reasons than one -- and I'm sure there are other people who feel the same.

Every year when I groan about Christmas music, I get people who ask me, "How can you not like Christmas?" or they accuse me of being a Jesus hater for not being appreciative of the celebration of His birth. My answer is this:

Christmas isn't about having the nicest stuff; it's about Jesus. But the problem is that we have created an expectation for our society which says that we are defined by how much we get or give for Christmas. For people with major financial issues, it can be really stressful in a sense that those families get reminded, once again, that they are less because they have less. Some people struggle to make ends meet on a daily basis, so when it comes down to it, how should they be expected to splurge this one time of the year when they can barely afford to put food on the table anyway?

If Christmas were more about Jesus than competitive commercialism, I really believe that it would be a much happier holiday. Ironically, Jesus taught more about sharing and caring rather than fighting to the top and seeing who can get the best gifts. It seems like Jesus has kind of been sucked out of His own birthday, which is sad. Because although several people know what Christmas signifies, they don't celebrate it for that reason.

There's a condition called SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) which makes people feel more depressed during a certain seasonal change, typically in the winter months. This means that while stores are blasting Christmas music about it being "the most wonderful time of the year" and having "a holly jolly Christmas," the people with SAD are only being dragged further into their pits of despair. What's worse than being depressed, is being depressed while seeing everyone else so happy. Christmas music makes it ten times worse.

Ah, yes, but Christmas is a time to get together with your families and have a good time -- unless you're one of those people who either doesn't have a family or doesn't have a "normal" family. With divorce rates being so high, there are likely a lot of kids out there who don't get to celebrate it with their families as a whole. Instead, they get the pleasure of living out of a suitcase on Christmas break, being reminded that they don't have one big happy family.

Realistically, death doesn't take a break on Christmas, either. There are a lot of families who have experienced the death of a loved one on or around Christmas. Heck, even if the death wasn't experienced on or near Christmas, people still grieve. There are parents who have lost children -- or even children who have lost parents. There are widows and widowers. You can bet that grieving people don't forget about their loved ones on Christmas, but are instead, reminded of their losses.

In my case, I lost a parent at age five on December 30 -- just five days after Christmas. The traumatic experience reenters my conscience every year around Christmas time. To me, Christmas isn't a cheery time and, personally, I wish people would respect that, rather than putting me on trial for not enjoying the holiday season. This isn't to say that everyone else should stop being happy during the holidays to please people who don't like Christmas. This is a simple inquiry to be more compassionate to the people who struggle throughout the holiday season.

Cover Image Credit: Hand of Jesus Ministries

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15 Things Only Lake People Will Understand

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.
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The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people. Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look. Every year when summer rolls back around, you can't wait to fire up the boat and get back out there. Here is a list of things you can probably identify with as a fellow lake-goer.

1. A bad day at the lake is still better than a good day not at the lake.

It's your place of escape, where you can leave everything else behind and just enjoy the beautiful summer day. No matter what kind of week you had, being able to come and relax without having to worry about anything else is the best therapy there is. After all, there's nothing better than a day of hanging out in the hot sun, telling old funny stories and listening to your favorite music.

2. You know the best beaches and coves to go to.

Whether you want to just hang out and float or go walk around on a beach, you know the best spots. These often have to be based on the people you're with, given that some "party coves" can get a little too crazy for little kids on board. I still have vivid memories from when I was six that scared me when I saw the things drunk girls would do for beads.

3. You have no patience for the guy who can’t back his trailer into the water right.

When there's a long line of trucks waiting to dump their boats in the water, there's always that one clueless guy who can't get it right, and takes 5 attempts and holds up the line. No one likes that guy. One time my dad got so fed up with a guy who was taking too long that he actually got out of the car and asked this guy if he could just do it for him. So he got into the guy's car, threw it in reverse, and got it backed in on the first try. True story.

4. Doing the friendly wave to every boat you pass.

Similar to the "jeep wave," almost everyone waves to other boats passing by. It's just what you do, and is seen as a normal thing by everyone.

5. The cooler is always packed, mostly with beer.

Alcohol seems to be a big part of the lake experience, but other drinks are squeezed into the room remaining in the cooler for the kids, not to mention the wide assortment of chips and other foods in the snack bag.

6. Giving the idiot who goes 30 in a "No Wake

Zone" a piece of your mind.

There's nothing worse than floating in the water, all settled in and minding your business, when some idiot barrels through. Now your anchor is loose, and you're left jostled by the waves when it was nice and perfectly still before. This annoyance is typically answered by someone yelling some choice words to them that are probably accompanied by a middle finger in the air.

7. You have no problem with peeing in the water.

It's the lake, and some social expectations are a little different here, if not lowered quite a bit. When you have to go, you just go, and it's no big deal to anyone because they do it too.

8. You know the frustration of getting your anchor stuck.

The number of anchors you go through as a boat owner is likely a number that can be counted on two hands. Every once in a while, it gets stuck on something on the bottom of the lake, and the only way to fix the problem is to cut the rope, and you have to replace it.

9. Watching in awe at the bigger, better boats that pass by.

If you're the typical lake-goer, you likely might have an average sized boat that you're perfectly happy with. However, that doesn't mean you don't stop and stare at the fast boats that loudly speed by, or at the obnoxiously huge yachts that pass.

10. Knowing any swimsuit that you own with white in it is best left for the pool or the ocean.

You've learned this the hard way, coming back from a day in the water and seeing the flowers on your bathing suit that were once white, are now a nice brownish hue.

11. The momentary fear for your life as you get launched from the tube.

If the driver knows how to give you a good ride, or just wants to specifically throw you off, you know you're done when you're speeding up and heading straight for a big wave. Suddenly you're airborne, knowing you're about to completely wipe out, and you eat pure wake. Then you get back on and do it all again.

12. You're able to go to the restaurants by the water wearing minimal clothing.

One of the many nice things about the life at the lake is that everybody cares about everything a little less. Rolling up to the place wearing only your swimsuit, a cover-up and flip flops, you fit right in. After a long day when you're sunburned, a little buzzed, and hungry, you're served without any hesitation.

13. Having unexpected problems with your boat.

Every once in a while you're hit with technical difficulties, no matter what type of watercraft you have. This is one of the most annoying setbacks when you're looking forward to just having a carefree day on the water, but it's bound to happen. This is just one of the joys that come along with being a boat owner.

14. Having a name for your boat unique to you and your life.

One of the many interesting things that make up the lake culture is the fact that many people name their boats. They can range from basic to funny, but they are unique to each and every owner, and often have interesting and clever meanings behind them.

15. There's no better place you'd rather be in the summer.

Summer is your all-time favorite season, mostly because it's spent at the lake. Whether you're floating in the cool water under the sun, or taking a boat ride as the sun sets, you don't have a care in the world at that moment. The people that don't understand have probably never experienced it, but it's what keeps you coming back every year.


Cover Image Credit: Haley Harvey

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10 Annoying Things That Always Happen In The Summer

Everyone is looking for a way to escape the heat.

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At first, it was too cold (because of global warming (yes, it's real!)), but now it's way too hot. Summer break is fun because it includes fun at the beach, hanging out with friends, and ice-cream, but it also brings along some cons.

1. Power outages happen at least once every week

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When everyone is using their air conditioner at the same time, it ain’t pretty. Power outages entail going back to medieval times with candles and NO AC.

2. Snapchat is filled with stickers showing the temperature

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Please stop posting about the temperature on Snapchat. We get it!! It’s hot!

3. Having to change twice in one day because you outsweated your first outfit

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I don’t know if this is TMI, but body sweat is a big no-no.

4. Getting into your car after it’s been sitting in the sun for a good hour

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If you own a car with black seats, you'll probably need aloe for all those burns on your back thighs.

5. Seeing your utilities bill at the end of month

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Ah, the pitfalls of instant gratification. Air conditioner, you are good but too expensive.

6. The weather is ALWAYS one of the topics of conversation

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Let’s stop this small talk about the weather. Yes, it’s hot, but talking about it won’t change anything!

7. Going to the beach results in sand EVERYWHERE

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Going to the beach is a double-edged sword. You get to play in the sun and have fun, but sand goes EVERYWHERE!!

8. Tan lines are no joke...sock tans, shorts tans, farmers tans, sandals tans

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Tan lines are literally the worst. Currently combating a Birkenstocks tan right now..

9. Insects are literally everywhere

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This is me if any bug comes near me. I know God created these bugs, but please just stay away from me!!

10. The smell of sunscreen hits you like a truck at the beach (or anywhere, for that matter)

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Don’t forget to apply your sunscreen, but remember to spray your sunscreen AWAY from other people. It’s not fun (nor safe) to inhale all that spray on sunscreen.

Summer break is fun and all, but is it really? Is it worth all the sweat, sand, tan lines, and insects?

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