As women get older, we are encouraged to stand up for other women and bond over shared experiences. I find that I can only share solidarity with other women so much.

At one point or another in our lives, we've heard the derogatory phrase, "pretty girls with problems." Its purpose is to trivialize the problems of women who society holds as beautiful. And though I do feel no woman's problems are trivial; I feel it's disingenuous for pretty women to feel their problems are equal to women facing sexual molestation, rape, poverty, homophobia, and racism. A lot of women walk different paths than others. It makes more sense to identify with women who walk similar paths.

Comparing plights in the world doesn't work in any instance. That's why there have always been so many different movements in history. Examples of these movements are The Renaissance, Women's Rights, Gay Rights, Civil Rights, Feminist Rights, and Pro-Choice Rights.

However, these movements lumped everyone's problems into one and forced solidarity on everyone where people didn't connect. So then separate movements came about. Movements like The Harlem Renaissance, Black Women's Rights, Lesbian Rights, Transgender Rights, Pro-Life Rights and Men's Rights.

Every woman can't find solidarity with other women just because we're women. A Transwoman's experiences are completely different than a ciswoman's experiences. A black woman's experiences are vastly different than a white woman. A Chinese woman's experiences are way different than a Thai woman's. A heterosexual woman will go through different challenges that a Lesbian woman. And these don't include the intersectionalities that women have –– like a 36-year-old black bisexual cisfemale vs a 21-year-old white heterosexual German and Italian cisfemale.

Not everyone will agree with this. Some will feel we're only stronger together because at the core we're all the same. But do you want to be the same as every other woman? Sure, we'd all have the same problems; but isn't the world fascinating in all its differences? Though I don't share or understand women different from me, I respect them. I listen to their experiences and take their word for it. To paint all women under one brush for the sake of solidarity is to not respect what we say is important to our lives.