It doesn't seem like there are many low maintenance girls left out there. Everyone seems to be so worked up about pleasing other people. They obsess over their appearance and constantly worry about what other people think of them. I have slowly grown to look past this and I wish that other girls could too. Living life while constantly needing someone else's approval to be happy is exhausting and emotionally draining. This has become a problem for girls because of the expectations society has for them. Girls are expected to be on top of their game all the time when it comes to not just their appearance, but the way they act as well.
I've always been a little bit jealous of those girls who always seem to look good and have themselves put together, but then I start to realize that I got 40 minutes of extra sleep simply by throwing my hair in a pony tail and putting on sweatpants. I know there are people who may wonder if I ever look presentable, and there are also girls who wouldn't feel confident dressing the way I do in public, but I stopped caring about what people think and I learned how to be comfortable in my own skin. Often times girls are expected by society to always look their best and it has now reached the point to where they don't feel beautiful unless they have on expensive clothes and a face full of makeup. This is something that I wish I could change.
Eating disorders and depression have developed from girls feeling like they don't fit in with what society wants. Girls are starving themselves to be more skinny because that is considered "pretty" by society. They see their bodies as a hinderance rather than as a beautiful creation. They are harming themselves because they hate their body as it is and they wish that it was better.
I don't know how to change the way society views girls, but I do know that nearly every girl experiences self-confidence issues from either comparing herself to someone else, or by worrying about what someone else thinks because it is something that I too have struggled with in the past.
One thing that I have come to believe is that people are often too self-centered to really care about how you look or what you are doing. How many times have you really criticized someone in your head for what they were wearing or how they looked? You may have had a thought or two cross your mind for a split second, but then your thoughts went right back to yourself and what you were doing.
Looking and feeling the way that you want to is a hard adjustment to make because we will always feel the need to please someone else, but in the end, our personal wellbeing is what is most important. Luckily, society is beginning to recognize this as a problem and people are starting to take small steps towards changing what is expected of girls. For example, models are beginning to be a more feasible weight and girls won't have to think that they have to lose weight to be considered pretty.
However, all of the steps won't work if girls don't learn how to accept themselves for who they are and forget trying to impress everyone. Society may continue to change, but in order to do so, we need more low maintenance girls in the world.
