How Social Media Has Ruined Our Capability To Trust

How Social Media Has Ruined Our Capability To Trust

Trusting someone is a beautifully terrifying thing
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As a generation, we have mastered the art of technology. With our knowledge of technology also comes the obsession we have all grown to have with social media. Social media is meant to be a good thing. It is meant to make staying in touch with people easier and to make it convenient to show your family what you’ve been up to while you’ve been away. But our generation has taken a left turn with it. Suddenly, likes on Instagram and favorites on Twitter have more meaning behind them than the words exchanged in everyday conversations. Relationships are ending left and right because guys and girls are finding excuses all over social media to not “trust” their partner anymore.

Let’s start with Snapchat. The root of many couples’ trust issues stemmed from Snapchat’s "best friends" list. Why do you care who your boyfriend/girlfriend is receiving pictures from? I don’t care if they are the most attractive person on this planet; he is dating you. If you’re really worried about a 10-second picture of a filtered, half-smiled pose is really going to be enough to make your guy leave you, then you may have bigger issues than Snapchat and should probably consider staying single until you are ready to trust in your boyfriend rather trusting in a social media outlet to define your relationship.

Next, Instagram. I once listened to a girl vent to her friend about her boyfriend liking another girl’s picture on Instagram. An action that took maybe half of a second and barely any physical movement caused this girl’s trust in her boyfriend to diminish. Don’t be that girl. Liking a girl’s picture does not translate into your boyfriend being unfaithful. It makes you look crazy for caring so much. Someone had to say it so I will be the one to say caring about the photos your boyfriend is liking or the photos that he is tagged in is just a little absurd.

Lastly, Twitter causes problems because you can see who others are talking to and what tweets are being favorited. People will talk to whoever they want. You, as a girlfriend, do not have the right to say who he can and cannot talk to. So, don’t start subtweeting about him because he tweeted that girl from his math class. Your subtweets will not change anything and I promise everything will be okay if you just let him tweet in peace.

Our source of trust comes from validation rather than just believing in the person we have chosen to love. There is too much room for doubt now and too many ridiculous fears that pop into your head as you start to worry about losing your boyfriend. Ignore the rumors and the girls trying to talk to your boyfriend; they are not your business. He chose to be with you. Trust in that. When you stop caring about what he is doing on social media, you will trust him and better your relationship the same way people did before we could check his best friends and favorites. Trusting someone is a beautifully terrifying thing and it can be scary but if you love the right person for the right reasons, it will be worth it. Trust the person you love and love the person you trust.

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I remember when I first heard the big news. I didn't want to believe it. My heart dropped. I was worried for you. What would happen? How would you get through this? Nothing we knew would ever be the same. Our world was about to change forever. I recalled the verse Isaiah 41:10, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you." I knew God was with you and would always be. I knew God needed me to be here for you, no matter what.

Turns out, you had this all in the bag. You handled everything with grace and dignity. You were strong even on your hardest days. You were overwhelmed with faith and you inspired me with your perseverance through the hardest times. I could not be more proud of who you became because of the cards you were dealt.

To Meaghan: I love you. I'm always here, no matter where. Hudson is so lucky to have you.

Here's what I learned from you and your sweet baby boy:

1. Contrary to popular belief, it is NOT the end of the world

Start making plans for the future. Pick out clothes, decorations, and toys. Help with all the madness and preparation. She would do the same for you. Plus, 9 p.m. runs to Toys-R-Us just to buy the baby some socks (because you do not know the gender yet) is always a good idea. You have to focus on the big picture. Life doesn't stop even when you want to.

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"Who knew picking out the brand of diapers to buy was so stressful?"

5. This world is a scary place. You never want to be all alone, so don't be. 

Like the song says, we, really do, all need someone to lean on. Just being there for someone goes a long way. "Meaghan what the heck are you doing in MY bed? How long have you been here?"

6. Lean on God. His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. 

When you don't know where to go, or who to turn to, pray! Pray for the burdens you feel. Pray for the future. Pray for patience. Pray for the ability to not grow weary. Pray for a heart of compassion. Pray. Pray. Pray.

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10.  At the end of the day, it's not what you have or what you know; rather, it is all about who you love and those who love you

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