How Social Media Has Ruined Our Capability To Trust

How Social Media Has Ruined Our Capability To Trust

Trusting someone is a beautifully terrifying thing
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As a generation, we have mastered the art of technology. With our knowledge of technology also comes the obsession we have all grown to have with social media. Social media is meant to be a good thing. It is meant to make staying in touch with people easier and to make it convenient to show your family what you’ve been up to while you’ve been away. But our generation has taken a left turn with it. Suddenly, likes on Instagram and favorites on Twitter have more meaning behind them than the words exchanged in everyday conversations. Relationships are ending left and right because guys and girls are finding excuses all over social media to not “trust” their partner anymore.

Let’s start with Snapchat. The root of many couples’ trust issues stemmed from Snapchat’s "best friends" list. Why do you care who your boyfriend/girlfriend is receiving pictures from? I don’t care if they are the most attractive person on this planet; he is dating you. If you’re really worried about a 10-second picture of a filtered, half-smiled pose is really going to be enough to make your guy leave you, then you may have bigger issues than Snapchat and should probably consider staying single until you are ready to trust in your boyfriend rather trusting in a social media outlet to define your relationship.

Next, Instagram. I once listened to a girl vent to her friend about her boyfriend liking another girl’s picture on Instagram. An action that took maybe half of a second and barely any physical movement caused this girl’s trust in her boyfriend to diminish. Don’t be that girl. Liking a girl’s picture does not translate into your boyfriend being unfaithful. It makes you look crazy for caring so much. Someone had to say it so I will be the one to say caring about the photos your boyfriend is liking or the photos that he is tagged in is just a little absurd.

Lastly, Twitter causes problems because you can see who others are talking to and what tweets are being favorited. People will talk to whoever they want. You, as a girlfriend, do not have the right to say who he can and cannot talk to. So, don’t start subtweeting about him because he tweeted that girl from his math class. Your subtweets will not change anything and I promise everything will be okay if you just let him tweet in peace.

Our source of trust comes from validation rather than just believing in the person we have chosen to love. There is too much room for doubt now and too many ridiculous fears that pop into your head as you start to worry about losing your boyfriend. Ignore the rumors and the girls trying to talk to your boyfriend; they are not your business. He chose to be with you. Trust in that. When you stop caring about what he is doing on social media, you will trust him and better your relationship the same way people did before we could check his best friends and favorites. Trusting someone is a beautifully terrifying thing and it can be scary but if you love the right person for the right reasons, it will be worth it. Trust the person you love and love the person you trust.

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26 Thoughts Every Farm Kid Has When Baling Hay

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Hay is an awesome agricultural product with lots of different uses. Getting the hay though? Not always so fun. Now, there are two different types of hay people in this world; round balers and sqaure balers. Round bales? Great for livestock and require a lot of machine work. Sqaure bales though? Easier to transport but are a little more old school and a require a little more hands on heavy lifting. And no matter how much you try to mentally prepare yourself, there was no quite a summer task for farm kids than baling hay. With hay season in full swing here in Central Ohio, here are just a few thought's we all had every year baling hay.

1. Okay, it's time to bale hay, no big deal, we do this every year.

2. This is so easy! Why do I normally complain?

3. Oh yeah, that was just mowing and racking, that's always the easy part.

4. Is that a rain cloud? Better not be a rain cloud, someone check the forecast.

5. What are the chances that I'll getta just drive the tractor this year?

6. Slim to none, got it.

7. Okay, that's fine, it's not that bad.

8. These bales aren't even that heavy, this is totally fine.

9. Just kidding they get heavy after a while.

10. Why is does it always have to be so hot when we do this? I'm actually dying.

11. Man I'm not in as good of shape as I thought I was.

12. Yes (Dad/Mom/Grandpa) I promise we're stacking them tight enough.

13. Maybe they could be a little tighter, readjust.

14. Oh hey dust and allergies, I don't need to see or breath or anything like that.

15. My arms ich.

16. Need. Water.

17. Are we done yet?

18. This field never seems that big til hay time.

19. Only ___ of laps to go, I'm totally fine.

20. Man, I just wanna take a cold shower and eat everything in the house.

21. I'm gonna sleep so good tonight.

22. If one more person tries to tell me how to do this I'm throwing them head first in the baler.

23. Need more water please, time out.

24. Alright, last wagon. I. Can. Do this.

25. Hallelujah, the end is in sight, God is good.

26. ...What do you mean we still have to unload everything into the loft? I quit.

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Poetry On Odyssey: Doubt

It is time to wage war on our emotions, yet to do so we must be ready for the unknown.
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What is it

Where does it come from

Why is it here

How is it so strong

When will it go away

Who even is it?


Questions on questions

They pile up higher and higher

But for what?


Is it only to be answered with another question

A question that can’t be answered,

Or can it?


Its name is doubt

Or is that even its name

I have become so unsure,

Because of its silly game.


Doubt makes us worry

Doubt makes us unwilling

Doubt makes us lost.


The very definition of doubt

Is a question

Or maybe it’s “to question.”


Doubt may be a hinder

Yet it does not cripple

For doubt can be overcome.


Our grass doesn’t have to be compared

No, not to the other side

See our grass can be watered

Watered right where we are.


It may take time,

But it will grow,

For it is proven.


We can’t question what is true

We can’t assume things we have yet to experience,

Yet we can grow what is right at our feet.


Sometimes we have to go with what we know,

And not with what we feel.


We have been given a mission

A purpose, if you recall,

Not to sit on the side

Yet to take the lead for all.


This is a stand we must make

One that will be hard to do

But hold on the promise

That we have all been there too.


For just as angst comes to prey

Doubt is by its side

But we know what’s to be done

We know how to fight

For we must only stand in the light.


Our grass will grow green

No matter how dead it seems

Don’t forget to add the water

Because that is all it needs.


You’ve got this,

Keep going,

You’re going to do great

I’m proud of you my friend

For this is not the end.

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