How Social Media Has Ruined Our Capability To Trust

How Social Media Has Ruined Our Capability To Trust

Trusting someone is a beautifully terrifying thing

As a generation, we have mastered the art of technology. With our knowledge of technology also comes the obsession we have all grown to have with social media. Social media is meant to be a good thing. It is meant to make staying in touch with people easier and to make it convenient to show your family what you’ve been up to while you’ve been away. But our generation has taken a left turn with it. Suddenly, likes on Instagram and favorites on Twitter have more meaning behind them than the words exchanged in everyday conversations. Relationships are ending left and right because guys and girls are finding excuses all over social media to not “trust” their partner anymore.

Let’s start with Snapchat. The root of many couples’ trust issues stemmed from Snapchat’s "best friends" list. Why do you care who your boyfriend/girlfriend is receiving pictures from? I don’t care if they are the most attractive person on this planet; he is dating you. If you’re really worried about a 10-second picture of a filtered, half-smiled pose is really going to be enough to make your guy leave you, then you may have bigger issues than Snapchat and should probably consider staying single until you are ready to trust in your boyfriend rather trusting in a social media outlet to define your relationship.

Next, Instagram. I once listened to a girl vent to her friend about her boyfriend liking another girl’s picture on Instagram. An action that took maybe half of a second and barely any physical movement caused this girl’s trust in her boyfriend to diminish. Don’t be that girl. Liking a girl’s picture does not translate into your boyfriend being unfaithful. It makes you look crazy for caring so much. Someone had to say it so I will be the one to say caring about the photos your boyfriend is liking or the photos that he is tagged in is just a little absurd.

Lastly, Twitter causes problems because you can see who others are talking to and what tweets are being favorited. People will talk to whoever they want. You, as a girlfriend, do not have the right to say who he can and cannot talk to. So, don’t start subtweeting about him because he tweeted that girl from his math class. Your subtweets will not change anything and I promise everything will be okay if you just let him tweet in peace.

Our source of trust comes from validation rather than just believing in the person we have chosen to love. There is too much room for doubt now and too many ridiculous fears that pop into your head as you start to worry about losing your boyfriend. Ignore the rumors and the girls trying to talk to your boyfriend; they are not your business. He chose to be with you. Trust in that. When you stop caring about what he is doing on social media, you will trust him and better your relationship the same way people did before we could check his best friends and favorites. Trusting someone is a beautifully terrifying thing and it can be scary but if you love the right person for the right reasons, it will be worth it. Trust the person you love and love the person you trust.

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20 Signs You Are In Tri Sigma

"Hey look at us! We are Tri Sigma girls!"

Tri Sigma has been my best decision in college. I have met so many friends I normally would not have met. It is crazy how different we all are but we really are not that different at all. I love these girls, and if you are a Tri Sigma, I bet you love them too.

If you are a Tri Sigma., you totally get this. We can all relate to these things being part of the best sorority (in my opinion!):

1. Pearls are a staple in your wardrobe.

2. Since our symbol is the boat, you have a new love for that beach theme.

3. If purple wasn't your favorite color, it is now!

4. Glitter is your second favorite color.

5. You cringe every time someone calls you a "Tri Sig." We are Tri SigMA!

6. You get a little emotional when you watch your Little get initiated because she finally gets to share this sisterhood with you.

7. You value Wisdom, Power, Faith, Hope, and Love.


8. No matter the years or miles apart, you know your sisters will be close at heart.

9. You give Sigma snaps everytime Carrie Underwood is on the radio or TV.

10. You know the struggle to find the perfect white dress.

11. April 20th means something different to you compare to other college students.

12. You have gained a new confidence in yourself as a woman.

13. You know Robbie Page was an inspiration, but also pretty cool kid with a loving momma.

14. You have a whole wall or bookshelf dedicated to your Sigma treasures.

15. You have come to realize that as a part of Tri Sigma, you are a part of something bigger than yourself.

16. You have been referred to as the sorority with the 3 Es.

17. You know the secret about the OG Harmony CareBear.

18. Violets are one of your favorite flowers.

19. Your favorite holiday is Bid Day.

20. You can't help but throw what you know where ever you go.

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Being in A Rush to Grow Up

Reminiscing On The Past

Remember when you were younger and you used to look at college students and think, "Wow, I can not wait to be an adult." WRONG! Now that we are in college and "adulting," we realize we do not have our lives together one bit. We struggle to wake up in the morning and get to class, and if we do get to class we are lucky if we don't look like a homeless person who just crawled out of a dumpster.

I remember being so excited to grow up because I would be able to do all sorts of things that I couldn't do when I was little. It all starts with getting your permit, rushing to be 15 and not realizing what we were leaving behind. Quickly after comes 16, getting your license, hopefully a car and feeling a whole new sense of independence. That feeling of being able to go anywhere and on your own time.

After the excitement of having your driver's license wears off, then comes the big 18. The time of being completely legally allowed to be independent. Your parents can kick you out, so play your cards right, am I right. At this point the excitement sets in of heading off to college and becoming your own person. Some may not go off to continue their education though, some may go other paths which can be equally exciting.

Once you get into your first couple years of college you realize at this point that you really don't have yourself together. You get fat, you go to class, and you probably cry more than you should. It's okay, it's normal, there could be worse things happening to you, right? All you are doing now is sitting around and waiting to turn 21 so you can legally do all the things you have already been doing.

But then what? You're 21, you are legally allowed to do everything you always looked forward to. But you look back on how simple things used to be before all the hoopla of growing up happened. Do you ever wish you could just turn back time for awhile and take things slower? Enjoy the times when your mom had to drive you to practice, and your dad gave you hell on not dating until you were 30.

Part of life is growing up, but sometimes it is about looking back and wishing it didn't go by too fast. Now all we can do is sit here, fat and in debt, and look back on the times when things were simpler and we thought growing up was this ideal to be had. Enjoy now, because you are just going to get older and older and wish you were back in the days that you are currently living in.

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