In the wise words of the Spice Girls, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends. Make it last forever, friendship never ends." And I just want to say, boy, are they right.

Let me tell you what I mean. If you have been on social media anytime within the last three-to-five years, a really really big trend is to show off how perfect your relationship is. The same posts fill everyone's feed whether you're in high school, college or even a whole adult. Pictures of couples at Disney or maybe vacationing somewhere exotic, if they have money, sometimes the couples are just doing something cute around town. The captions though are where it gets really annoying, someone is always saying how their significant other is their best friend, and while I totally support healthy relationships, this is not OK.

Previously, I wrote an article about being a serial dater, which means I've been in a lot of relationships, and I have never once considered a boyfriend to be my best friend. There are so many red flags that pop up in my mind when I hear that.

The first red flag I think of is that you're a liar. Now you may genuinely feel like your S.O. is your best friend but I promise you that isn't true. Picture this, you're living your best life right, maybe out on the town or scrolling through Intsa, and what do you see? The most beautiful person in the world, right there! Who do you tell first? You're telling your best friend — am I right or am I right? And I really hate to break it to you, but if you tell your S.O. about your lustings, it isn't a cute couple thing, it can lead to a lot of distrust and uncertainty. I know from personal experience.

Some other small red flags, definitely need to be talked about even if they aren't too likely.

Who will you have when your S.O. hurts you or upsets you?

Who can you turn to when you need someone who can relate to you?

Did your S.O. take the place of someone close to you?

Are you neglecting friendships and hurting people because of your new S.O?

Did your S.O. brainwash you into thinking they're the only person you have?

Now go out there and have yourself both an S.O. and a best friend, you deserve it. Hey while you're at it maybe tell them both you love them, and that they're doing amazing sweetie.