I'm Beginning The Slow Process Of Learning To Say Goodbye

I'm Slowly Learning To Say Goodbye To Everything That Is No Longer Good For Me

Goodbyes are necessary in order for you to move on to the next phase of your growth.

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Whether you like to realize it or not, life passes you by quickly. Nothing is set in stone and nothing lasts forever. When it comes to your life, the things and the people in it, it can sometimes be hard to let go and say goodbye. But goodbyes are necessary to move on to the next phase of your growth.

Now that we are well into the new year, I have proposed to myself the task of saying goodbye. I want to work on closing the door behind me and looking ahead. Starting the new year off on the right foot and moving forward starts by saying goodbye to the past. It is time to realize my life is headed in a different direction and the things that once mattered to me or who I was before are no longer important.

There should not be much room in your life for storage.

In life, space is limited, and that space should only be occupied with the things that mattered most. As we grow older, those things start to change. We value different things and our personalities start to change.

There is true power in saying goodbye to what once was. I have never been good at goodbyes. In fact, I hate them. Goodbyes and change scare me, and holding on and dwelling is sometimes easier.

But this time, I'm slowly learning to say goodbye to everything that is no longer good for me.

I'm learning to say goodbye to the people in my life who don't provide any type of quality to who I am as a person. I'm saying goodbye to the doubters, the selfish, the arrogant, the lazy and the fake. I'm saying goodbye to the ones who shattered my heart and didn't look back to see where the pieces fell.

I'm learning to let go of the negative perspectives and attitude I've held on to for so long. I'm learning to let go of my self-doubt, the "I'm not good enough's" or "I'm not smart enough's." It's time to stop looking in the mirror and wishing I was more than what I am. It's time to say goodbye to the pessimist inside of me.

I'm learning to say goodbye to a comfortable lifestyle because it's the one I've always known. It is time for me to embrace change.

I'm learning to say goodbye to the fear of the unknown.

It's time for me to accept new challenges and new opportunities without fear. I'm learning to say goodbye to bad habits and limiting beliefs. I'm learning to say goodbye to everything and anything that is preventing me from living the life I want. I'm learning to let go of everything that once made me sad.

I'm learning to say goodbye to who I once was and how to hold on to the right things.

I'm holding on to the difficulties that make me grow, to the people that encourage me and see the real me. I'm holding on to family and self-love. I'm learning to say hello to a new life.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.
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Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Celebrating 1 Year Sober

Self-harm free is a better me.

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This has truly been a challenging year for me. I have literally hit my rock bottom and tried to end it all. Eventually, I found my way out of the dark side through a week-long stay in a psychiatric unit.

This year has made me feel weak, small, empty, forgotten, unloved, and immensely broken.

But I made it.

I didn't try to end my life nor make myself feel pain for one whole year. Before this breakdown, I hadn't self-harmed in nearly six years, but sometimes, you have to hit rock bottom to realize you need help.

Getting better and keeping myself safe from me was not an easy job. The first six months, I literally fooled myself into thinking that I was doing better. I got out of the hospital and said, "I'm healed. I'm better. I don't need the medicine, and I don't need the therapy. I'm fixed."

I had convinced myself that a week-long stay in the hospital was a fix-all.

I was wrong.

Fighting mental illness is not something that can be solved in a day, week, month, or even a year. This is going to be a battle that I will have for the rest of my life. I will need a therapist for most of my life if I want to stay on the wagon, and I've finally accepted it.

I'm very thankful for my support system, the people who stayed there and continued to help me understand why I deserved to feel better about myself. While the people who only cared for a day thought they were helping, it really made me feel more alone once they left again.

So, a true extra thank you to the people that were amazing enough to stay by my side through the worst times of my life.

I strongly encourage anyone struggling with self-harm to seek the help they need. One of the biggest motivators for me was that I didn't want my younger siblings or cousins to have to attend a memorial or funeral for me. I try to set an example for them, and the best example I've done so far is getting the help I desperately needed.

One year self-harm free and many more to come.

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