Full disclosure, read all about it, disclaimer right here----I am happy. I am 100% happy on my own. Being single is a choice for me and right now, at this moment, it is one of the best choices I have ever made. Being a young woman in her 20s in the era where dating isn't even a thing anymore is quite difficult. 2016 is especially the worst year for dating as decided by twitter memes. People aren't as genuine as they used to be, and that is a whole other topic for another day. But today the topic is a choice. Choosing to be single is a choice for you. One that you make for yourself.
Being the type of person that I am, I always put others before myself. It is just who I am and I don't consider my own feelings before helping others. Most of the time it is beneficial, but sometimes it makes me feel like I'm not up to par. My choice to be single is the first choice I've made for myself in a long time that I feel completely happy and alive about.
I'll explain; I have the time to focus on who I am as a person and to me, that is amazing. Every day I feel as if I find something new about myself that I didn't think about before. We change, we evolve, we are human. I am not saying that one day I wouldn't love to be in a relationship, but for now, I am content. That is enough for me.
People don't understand that being alone doesn't have to be lonely. It can be a chance to create, explore and discover something about yourself. Being alone can be a good thing. For me, it has boosted my confidence in myself in many ways. I am working on myself inside and out. I have the time to do that. I have all the time to decide on things and that makes me feel great.
Being single isn't a bad word. You are not alone when you are single. You have the time to build and maintain friendships that you otherwise may not have the time for. I am learning that friendship is something that will get you through your darkest times in life. Having a friend there for you is sometimes all you need.
When you are single you can make choices on your own and do whatever the hell you want. You have the freedom to say yes or no without repercussions. I'm not bashing relationships by any means because I believe they are the foundation of a great and happy life, but at this time, right now, being single is OK.
So next time you feel down on being single, think about yourself and all the things you can work on and do for YOU. This is your time to shine. And when that day comes that you happen to find someone, great. I wish you all the best.
