As you’ve gotten older and started living on your own at college, you’ve noticed one glaring detail about yourself that you’d never noticed before: you’re turning into your mother! While you two might have had a kind of rocky relationship in high school because you were an annoying, bratty teenager and she had rules that needed to be followed, you feel like now that you’re not stepping on each other’s toes every single day you’ve actually become a lot closer, and in the process of getting closer, you’ve started to develop a lot of her habits.

1. Your clothing habits are oddly similar: Whenever you two go shopping with each other, there is a sort of gravitational pull toward the same rack, and when you both hold up your finds to show the other, it’s the same thing! When you’re home for holidays and breaks, it’s not uncommon for you two to be sharing and swapping clothes. But don’t worry, this isn’t a bad thing at all - it just means that your tastes are maturing away from crazy T-shirts and baggy sweatpants. Plus, when you’re home, it means you have another whole closet to choose from!

2. You say the same thing: Calling your mom on the phone almost always ends with you two saying the same thing at the same time at some point in the conversation. You’ve also noticed after years and years of hearing your mom give advice to her friends, the advice you’re giving to your friends sounds like pretty much the same thing. You both have similar hearts and you treat your friends the same way.

3. You both have matching eating/cooking habits: Whether it’s how you take your coffee, what toppings you put on your pizza or what kind of food you eat at 10 p.m. before going to bed, you are basically mirroring your mom with your eating habits.

4. You both have the same obsessions: Obsessed with cats? You probably got it from your mom. Obsessed with a certain TV show? I bet your mom is obsessed with it, too. Your tastes that were so polar opposite before are now slowly turning into the same interests and obsessions. This is just means that every time you find a cute cat video or some gossip about a star from that show you’re both obsessed with, you get to text or call your mom to geek out about it together.

5. Those annoying little quirks that your mom has? Well, now they’re yours too: Whether it’s your mom’s terrible sense of direction, her obnoxiously early bedtime or maybe just the way she laughs, there’s a good chance you’re adopting those same habits that annoyed the heck out of your for the first 18 years of your life.

My advice to you is to just embrace these newly-found similarities between you and your mother because there’s so much more good in them than bad. So what if you’re turning into your mother? You could learn a thing or two from her, and you obviously love her, so just deal with it.