6 Signs You're Ready To Settle Down

6 Signs You're Ready To Settle Down

Some people would rather stay in on a Friday night and watch movies, order food in, and just relax.

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Everyone thinks when you're twenty whatever, it's about going out and partying all the time, random hookups, nothing really ever serious. You picture going out all weekend drinking, meeting so many new people, stay out of the dance floor all night. But sometimes these aren't really things that some want. Some people would rather stay in on a Friday night and watch movies, order food in, and just relax. Here are some signs that you're ready to settle down.

​1. Dating is exhausting and you just really aren't interested in it.

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Trust me, many of you may be on tinder looking at all sorts of people. You may get messages "Damn girl" or "wanna hang" all the time. People now a days are just looking for hookups, which is why it's so shocking to meet someone who is also ready to settle down.

2. You want to co-own a dog together.

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Dogs are a big responsibility, it's honestly a commitment to the dog and each other. Dogs can live for years, 15 years so owning a dog together is something that needs a serious conversation. But if you are together and don't have a dog, but want to move on to a next step with your significant other, this is a great step. It prepares for children one day because of all the responsibility that comes with owning a loving dog.

3. Comfort over Style.

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When you choose to wear no makeup, sweatpants, and your hair in a messy bun without caring what you look like, that's a good sign. You've become comfortable with your significant other that looks don't matter. Trust me, when settling down with someone you'll just think "take me as i am, or watch me as I leave"

4. You aren't willing to change for anyone.

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You no longer care what people think about you or what they say about you. You know what you've done and what you haven't. There's no time for petty drama or dealing with BS.

5. You're goals to continue to grow bigger.

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You want that huge house, brand new car you've dreamed about since you were younger, thinking about marriage and having children, even want to build a career. All the adults things, like a real career where you make good money to support a family without having to worry, even starting a retirement plan.

6. You get excited to clean/organize.

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It makes you so happy to actually clean and get things together. Everything has a spot of where it goes and if moved to a different spot it drives you crazy. Items belong where they do, and cleaning becomes an everyday thing and not a chore.

Adulting is huge, some people aren't ready for it in their twenties and some are. It really just depends on you, some want it sooner than others. Some may even need it as they grow up because they just need to feel responsible for once instead of staying at home feeling like they aren't doing anything. But, becoming an adult takes a huge responsibility, make sure you're ready for it before you try to accomplish everything all at once.

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To Everyone Who Hasn't Had Sex Yet, Wait For Marriage, It's The Right Move

If you have not had sex yet, wait.

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Premarital sex is not a new concept, no matter how much people like to pretend it is. You can trace scripture and historical texts back thousands of year to see that lust and fornication have been a problem since… well, since we humans have been problems.

They tell you in sex ed that sex causes you to form a bond with someone. They throw some big chemical names at you that are apparently in your body and cause that emotional attachment to happen, then you move on (or back to) how important condoms are and why STDs are so scary.

As a middle schooler or teenager, you can't understand what it means to become permanently connected to someone as a result of a quick, physical act.

If you haven't even had your first kiss, you really can't imagine what it's like to develop such a complex and intimate connection with someone because you have yet to feel the butterflies in your stomach from a kiss. So you really don't know what it's like to have a whole different type of feeling in your stomach.

You never forget your first love. It's one of the most cliche things you consistently hear, but it's true. Ask anyone. I guarantee your parents can still spurt out their first love's name in a few seconds. And most people never forget their first time. I know all my friends can recount that often awkward and slightly terrifying moment as if it happened an hour ago. When you mix those two, especially if you are in your teens, oh boy.

You never forget that. No matter how hard you try.

Everything you hear about sex is true: it's amazing, fantastic, life-changing, etc. There's a reason people have done it as frequently as they do, for as long as they have. But every time you sleep with someone, you leave a piece of yourself with them. Every time you choose to take that final physical step with someone, you cannot go back and collect that piece of your dignity and soul that you left with someone.

So, imagine what happens when you break up with someone you've slept with. Or that you just hooked up with. You have given someone a little slice of yourself forever. And you can never get it back. And imagine what happens when you do that multiple times. You give a piece of yourself to five, 10, 15, 20 or more people. Then you meet the person that you want to spend forever with. And you no longer have that whole part of you. You've given pieces away, and you can no longer give those to the love of your life.

So, save those pieces for your future spouse.

If you have not had sex yet, wait. If you have, consider not giving more pieces of yourself away to people who are not your spouse. Sex was created to be between two spouses, nobody else. So we need to try to maintain its integrity.

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Friends With Benefits: Heartbreak Or Full Of Satisfaction?

The truth behind figuring out if friends with benefits is for you.

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The time has come in our lives where hooking up with people is the norm. Ranging from random frat party make-outs to tinder match dates ending up at their place. Whether you are into it or not, the hookup culture is constantly swarming around college campuses. What is the big deal anyway? We are humans and have our biological needs to be met. But what if you felt like a part of you was left with the person every time you hook up with someone? Would you end up feeling empty and guilty or full of life and contented?

This is both to the people who find joy in a little spontaneous rendezvous, and the ones who prefer to not partake in the typical college hookup culture. Both are completely normal, and both sides are not alone. Everyone experiences college in their own way. If not having sex is something that you want to keep in your personal experience, then more power to you. And if you want to find someone to casually hook up with is also a well-endowed experience. Sex is something that everyone should interpret in their own way. Whatever someone wants to do with their own body is their business and not up for debate with anyone else.

College comes with many ups and downs. With grades slipping halfway through the semester and friends becoming distant, we are always looking for a connection. Having a friend who you trust and becoming friends with benefits can help people relieve stress, experience a newly found form of yourself, and find what you find important in a partner. The casual hook up scene is abundant in college and finding a friend to hook up with is not a difficult task. Casual sex is not talked about and is seen as a disgraceful thing to most people, when in reality it is just people experimenting with their sexuality and finding what fulfills them in a sexual sense.

To become attached to a friend-with-benefits partner is one sticky situation. You have no control over what they do outside of with you, and if it comes with no strings the situation can become messy in an instant. Messy situations call for a few questions to be discussed before you and your friend carry on with the arrangement. Do you want there to be strings? Are you more attached than you thought? Should the two of you take the next step to a monogamous relationship? So many questions to be answered to make sure that what you are doing is worth it and if it turns out isn't really for you.

For some people, mot having friends with benefits helps boost their self-esteem and allow them to value sex in a committed relationship. While on the other end having a sexual relationship with a friend can bring a new sense of self confidence that was lacking before the relationship partook. Becoming sexually confident and awaken can help any college student break out of their shell. Before you become more open with that part of yourself, you need to look deep down and see if you are ready for not only that type of open relationship with another person. If you are ready to open that side of yourself, you may be ready to have a friends-with-benefits or take part in casual hookups, if not then take time to figure out if that is what you want to do. At the end of the day they don't say college years, no matter what you engage in, are the best for nothing.

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