Whether you refer to him as your boyfriend or he’s supposedly committed to you in some way, the following are universal signs that you should ditch the douche.
1. He doesn't believe in labels.
"We could be casual. You know, like see each other and see other people? But still be together?"
Just leave him now. Right now.
2. He doesn't take you out on dates.
You ask him to go to the movies all the time and the one time he agrees to bring you, he will not let you pick it, refuses to pay, then backs out at the last minute because he “doesn’t feel like it anymore.” And he doesn't buy you gifts for holidays when you spend days planning what you are going to get him.
3. He posts pictures of himself flexing in the mirror on your anniversary.
Caption = "happy anniversary to these gains!"
4. His girl toy/mistress requests to follow you three times.
She’s blocked now.
5. He's disrespectful to your family.
Do not disrespect family. Upon meeting the parents, you do not have an attitude with them and condescend them. Recipe. For. Disaster.
6. He doesn't listen to any authority and does whatever he wants.
"I'm above the law. It doesn't matter what I do because I'm me."
7. He's narcissistic.
"I'm the best person ever. I honestly am amazing. I treat you like a princess and I do everything for you. You owe me."
Ummm, excuse me? Misogynist much?
8. He flirts with other girls… behind your back and in front of you.
He says he needs to "keep up his flirting skills." If that's not a terrible excuse, I don't know what is.
9. He wants you to change.
"I am who I am, so you are the one who needs to change."
First of all, no. I would acknowledge if I was in the wrong but I’m pretty sure that’s just you.
“You need to be more spontaneous. I think spontaneous girls are sexy.”
Second of all, I change for no one. I like the way I am.
10. He wants you to go against your morals.
"Well everyone else does it, so you should too."
Well, I'm not everyone else, am I?
11. He controls you.
“If you really loved me, you would prove it by lying to your family.” “Don’t listen to your family and friends, listen to me.” “We are not doing that because it sounds boring. Let’s do what I want to do.” “Let’s do this. Why can’t we do this? You did this with your friend so now you have to do it with me. It's not fair that you did this with her and not me."
No, I don't want to. I will not be forced to do something I don't want to do.
12. Finally, in doing all of this, he makes you feel as if you owe him or that you are not good enough. Not good enough for him, for anyone else, or even for yourself.
“Maybe it’s not him. Maybe it’s me. I should just do what he wants so he won’t be mad. That’s okay, right?”
Unfortunately, these are things that girls face in relationships with guys like this. In fact, some people might say that these are signs of an abusive relationship. Please, ladies, do not date this boy. You deserve better. You deserve someone who won't make you scared that he'll make a fool of himself when he meets your family or goes out in public. You deserve someone who respects your moral choices and values your independence.
You deserve someone who will not try to change you and isolate you from the people that you love so that he feels powerful. You deserve someone who is a gentleman in all aspects. He will love you no matter what and won't want you to wear "sexy" clothing because that's what he likes. You wear what you want. You do what you want. You are your own person.
