Relationships all have their ups and downs which is totally normal, but some get too repetitive and become a constant. You are well aware if you are not happy in your current relationship and the following may be reasons why. Such signs often go unnoticed where you are too blinded by your partner to actually see what's going on or maybe your friends have pointed these out and you didn't take them too seriously. If these signs are continuously showing up in your relationship, then maybe it's time to reconsider. Never settle and always know your worth.
Disagreeing with them is not an option
If you disagree with anything they say or do, they immediately make you feel like your opinion doesn't matter or use words to put you down to make you seem like you're crazy.
They are extremely controlling of all your choices
Whether it's who you talk to, who you hang out with, where you go, or even what you wear, they always have restrictions and make you feel like you can't live your life. There is a fat line between a little jealousy and total possessiveness.
They never actually harm you physically but harm things around you
For example, punching walls, breaking dishes, slamming tables etc, are all threats of what they are capable of doing with their strength. This form of aggressiveness is expressed through ways physically without ever hurting you externally, but is psychologically damaging.
Mean jokes or constant humiliation
Joking around is always fun and is totally fine, but if jokes are hitting it too close where you know it's NOT okay in your book and they are well aware of that, then it becomes abusive. If this is happening publicly to embarrass you on top of that, that's another sign. If some jokes are making you feel uncomfortable or uneasy then changes need to be made.
Use of sarcasm in every other conversation
This makes you feel like they don't care or aren't taking your relationship seriously. They are making you feel stupid and unwanted which is the complete opposite of what a healthy relationship consists of.
Always blame you for their actions
They always tell you that you're the reason for their aggression which is a LIE. They are responsible for their own actions no matter how bad the situation is, don't let them make you question your self-worth.
You do things against your will for them
This can be the most mundane of things, monetary or even sexually which often leads to sexual assault and rape. You fear of how they will react if you object.
They aren't excited for you when you achieve something
They don't make any effort to celebrate. At all. Instead, they ignore it and act as if nothing happened.
They always tell you they'll put themselves in danger as an excuse
Telling you they'd do so-and-so to make you forgive them for their repetitive stupidity and unthinkable decisions.
They hate it when other people are involved when you guys have problems
Sure getting others involved isn't ideal, but if your partner has a problem with you getting insight and help from friends then that's the real problem. If you are in an abusive relationship and feel as though you are trapped or need someone to talk to, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (they also have an online live chat option).
