So, I promise this isn't gonna be like the awkward talk you may (or may not) have had the talk with your parent(s). Sex is something that everyone deals with, and it should be addressed in a more nonchalant manner.
First, sex isn't a bad thing!
If you wanna go have a three-some, or just have passionate sex with your partner/lover, you do you boo-boo! Because no matter what you do, or whom you "do it" with, the most important thing is that you're comfortable doing so. Don't ever let someone force you into doing something if you believe otherwise.
Second, slut shaming is a very contradicting double-standard.
This is one of my biggest problems. There is such a double-standard for sex and being labeled a "slut." If a guy is called a slut, it's because he and his "boys" think that he basically won the Olympics, because so many questions will arise: "Was it good? Tell me you tapped that ass, bro!" And other questions like such.
Whereas when females get called a slut, it's because their "number" is too high. Get out of town with that sh*t! Someone else should not dictate what "number" is too high or too low - let Jane Doe do her thing, whether it's a four-some or just a casual hook-up.
Because this is something that has personally affected me, it really is debilitating solely because you don't ever want to hear that you're a slut, especially by someone who is a guy.
So, don't let someone put you down because you like sex. Whether it's doggy, or missionary or even Kama Sutra - get it in!
Third, if you are still a virgin, that's okay!
If you decide to keep it because of a promise ring or waiting until marriage, don't break that bond with yourself because you either will regret it or love sex! Just know that whatever you are comfortable with, you do. And as I said earlier, don't let someone force you into doing something you're not only uncomfortable with but also if you simply do not trust someone.
On that note, trust is a very important thing!
You don't want someone trying to stick it in the back without lube. Not only because it would hurt like hell, but sometimes, it's just not your thing. If you and your partner want to try something new, then talk about it beforehand and ease into it.
That being said, go down on her, yo!
"She's not shaved, man. She doesn't smell like daisies." These are excuses, guys. Many of you expect to receive, but won't reciprocate! Ding-Ding-Ding, Double Standard alert!! Just because she doesn't use feminine products or eat fruit (which helps!) as much, doesn't mean that you aren't able to feel her up with your tongue. She does so with a guy (or girl, if she pleases to do so), so what's the problem with a guy giving some oral stimulation?
Communication, communication, communication.
If something hurts or is uncomfortable, or you simply don't like it, say something! Sex isn't just about pleasing the guy, it's a two-way street, yo. So, even if it is awkward and uncomfortable to say something during sex, just say it because he or she may feel just as awkward about trying to figure out what you like.
Lastly, condoms and STD's/HIV.
This is one of the most important notes here. Listen, even if you don't like to use condoms and prefer bare-skin, use them anyway! College is a place where a student will most likely catch a sexually transmitted disease because no one likes to use a condom! I don't know about you, but herpes and getting the "clap" doesn't sound/look too appealing to me.
So, unless you know for sure that your partner is clean, wrap that sh*t up yo.
