Oh, young love; what a beautiful disaster. Precious hearts spend every day dreaming of waking up every morning to the same person and feeling the kind of raw and romantic love that is portrayed so often in the media. Thankfully, the media has begun to find an accurate reality of the concept of this juvenile feeling and it's anything but traditional. Our characters of today continuously find themselves in one night stands and 'friends with benefits' relationships that either crash and burn or end beautifully. However, is this the kind of message that we want to learn from and be inspired by?
People desire love. They desire the connection and the feeling and the warmth of being needed by another person, yet they enter these 'relationships' with all the wrong intentions. Sex has begun to triumph love in relationships and it's not only destroying the purity of a beautiful act, but it's also destroying modern day relationships.
Sex is destroying your relationship.
By now you're probably thinking that I'm insane or just being dramatic, but hear me out: When you seek out a physical experience before an emotional experience, there's a good chance that it's going to end ugly. Swiping left and getting drunk enough to justify bad decisions will only leave you lonely and embarrassed.
Our generation craves the fire and intensity of sex, yet refuses to accept the emotional connection that is meant to be associated with it.
Sex is fleeting. When you're done, you may feel good for a while, but it won't last because you chose to use a beautiful art for the wrong purpose. Sex is an amazing thing, but it should be happening when you truly feel a connection with someone. Stop playing footsies and start getting to know the person you're interested in. When you begin a relationship by connecting with their brain and their heart instead of their bed, you'll find yourself in a state of shock in awe.
Sometimes all people want is to sleep with you, and you can't control their desires. However, you can control the situation. Tell them that you'd like to get to know them first; perhaps get a cup of coffee and share interests. If they run, then you know that they were only interested in your body. If they stay, then they're willing to take some time to understand who you are before exposing themselves to you. In turn, you save yourself nights of heartbreak and lost time to someone who didn't deserve it.
When sex becomes the ruler of the relationship, you cannot grow to understand your significant other on a level deeper than the physical realm. Although it feels nice to be so physically connected with someone, you're going to wake up one day and realize that you know nothing about the person that you share a bed with. That feeling in and of itself is nothing less than terrible.
We were gifted with the ability to love and be loved, so use that gift wisely. Don't let sex ruin your relationship. Let it be a catalyst to a deeper love, both physically and spiritually.
