Each relationship I come across, I question every motive that someone has toward me. I question whether they have true intentions, or if they just want to take advantage of me. In the past, I've dealt with trust issues, lies, and dishonesty brought upon from friends and even boys. The way I handle these issues is by burying my emotions, and guarding my heart.
Closing myself off from others is what my defense mechanism is, and it has ruined plenty of potential relationships. Having no emotions becomes exhausting. Should one really go through life not feeling anything? In our generation it's too "cliché" to show our feelings. Keeping your heart open can become an obstacle, especially when you’ve been hurt by someone you really love but opening up can help these issues.
Even though it may be hard to imagine trusting someone new after you’ve been hurt by someone you love, imagine the outcome of the relationship. Think about how your life could turn in a new direction from where you continuously close yourself off from love and companionship. If you're anything like me I tend to close people off if they show any interest in me. I have been treated so wrongly, that's why I feel like that's what I deserve. In reality, I deserve someone who loves me unconditionally. I am so damaged from my past relationships, being able to open to someone takes a lot for me. I feel as if every time I open up, that's when the relationship falls to pieces.
Feeling guarded all of the time become mentally, and physically exhausting. I can sit down and have a conversation with someone, then I will analyze every word that they said. I feel as if someone is just saying it and they're not being real. However, I have got to quit letting my past relationships getting in the way of new ones.
Although, it may be hard to think about trusting someone new after you’ve been hurt by someone you love, think about the positive effects. Stop thinking about a life where you continuously close yourself off from love. No one deserves to feel that way. Being able to change your mindset will change everything for you.
It’s hard for anyone to move forward in any relationship when you've been stuck on the person who hurt you. Don’t let the anger from your past ruin your chance of learning to love someone. Let it become a lesson for what you won’t accept in future relationships.
There is no other better feeling than getting over the person that hurt you. Nothing’s greater than showing the world that you are no longer stuck in your past and that you’re finally in a place where you’re ready to start over. When you begin to love yourself, that's when you can start loving others the right way.
"If you were happy before you met someone, you can be happy after they leave you." Never settle for less than what you deserve.
