Self-esteem is defined as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect.

Self-respect is defined as pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity.

Self-confidence is defined as a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.

Many girls and even some guys lack these things. We have no self-esteem when it comes to liking how we look and no confidence in who we are. Some people may have it all together and can walk around super confident in who they are and how they look. Then there are the people who don’t have it together or appear this way because they have no confidence.

Recently I was told that I appear to be super confident in who I am and what I do. Let me tell you a little secret: I’m not even close to being confident in who I am. My self-esteem is super low, and this causes me to have very low confidence in myself. And I know many other people who are the same way.

I tell my younger sister every day that she is beautiful. She is, but I want to build her confidence up so she knows she is. I don’t want her to rely on a guy to tell her she is beautiful to make her feel like she is worth something. I let her know how smart I think she is, and I tell her that I know she can accomplish any goal she sets out to reach. It’s important to not only let them know they are beautiful but to also let them know they have a purpose.

Girls with low self-esteem feel like they have no worth, like they aren’t good enough. Some think that they can make themselves appear confident by wearing makeup or a certain kind of clothing. Or they lose their self-respect trying to make someone like them. They don’t understand that being who they are is confidence enough.

I’ve always struggled with having low self-esteem and self-confidence. I’ve always had people in my life who remind me that I don’t need to worry about whether or not someone else likes me. When someone says something negative about me I automatically start making a list in my head of other things that I think are wrong with me. It sets off a chain reaction and it’s impossible to stop. That’s where the people who love me come in and help me boost up my self-esteem. They remind me to have self-respect and to be confident in myself.

Life throws us lessons in every way possible. We learn something every day, whether we realize it or not. Every day I become a little more confident in the person that I am and the person I am becoming. And trust me, that has nothing to do with a guy. I believe in myself. It’s not easy, but I want to let other girls and even the guys know that being confident is a daily struggle for a lot of people.

One of the ways I become more confident is by complimenting others. When I compliment others it makes me feel better about myself. Next time you feel low about your looks or about anything, just compliment someone. Trust me it will make you feel better, and it will put a smile on that persons face.