You're In Your 20s, Why On Earth Would You Rush To Grow Up?

You're In Your 20s, Why On Earth Would You Rush To Grow Up?

Everyone from my hometown is getting married and having kids, meanwhile, I just finished the whole series "Sex and the City" in two weeks.

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Everyone in college is always talking on social media about how "everyone from their high school is getting married or having babies." When they say this, they are probably referring to the 2 or 3 people from their graduating class that got knocked up or randomly tied the knot. When I tell my friends the number of people from MY hometown getting married and having babies, they are shocked. I am not exaggerating when I say every week someone new is posting on Instagram or Facebook that they are pregnant or engaged. I can't even keep up with it anymore.

This could be because I come from a relatively small town surrounded by cornfields and not much to do other than hang out at the local McDonald's. However, this is one trend I just can't get behind.

I understand we are at the age where we are starting to become adults in the real world. We need to start paying our own bills, making our own doctor appointments and doing our own grocery shopping. All that good stuff. I guess I just missed the part where this meant it was also time to buy our own house, move in with our boyfriends, and start having kids? While it is true that we are getting older, we are still so young. At the ages of 20 and 21, we should be worried about passing accounting and what parties we are going to this weekend, not what our wedding dress is going to look like.

We have our entire lives to be married, have kids, and have a career. We only have a limited window to be on our own and do all the fun things that make us happy, before we have to do the things that make our kids and our spouses happy as well.

Our early 20's are not a competition of who can grow up the fastest and act the most mature. It should be a time of fun and excitement where we let loose a little before we really do have to become real adults and put the college days behind us. I guess that mindset is not the same for everyone, but that is just one thing I won't understand.

I can't even wake up before 10:30 a.m. unless I have to. There is no way I could stay up all night with a crying baby, nor would I want to. I could never cook for a whole family, I just learned how to make grilled cheese last year. I could never live with a significant other, my clothes and shoes take up my entire room as it is. But this is how it should be, at least for a few more years.

Overall, I don't understand the rush to grow up and I will never agree with it. I understand that sometimes we are forced to grow up faster and it is not always by choice. Those that are choosing to race to the wedding dresses, however, are likely to go through a midlife crisis at age 30 if you ask me.

This is a confusing time in our lives no doubt. There are those starting families and buying houses and there are those that can't make it home from the fraternity down the road without throwing up in a bush. No matter what lifestyle you choose to lead at this age, it is not easy for anyone. Sometimes we all need to step back, take a deep breath, and just smile.

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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
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Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You’re at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You’re probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you’re calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you’re walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You’re convinced you’re ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You’ve already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you’re an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school’s name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I’m telling you right now, you’re going to miss it all. Everything you’ve ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald’s hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you’ve seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You’re going to miss them more than anything. I’m telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You’ve got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life; it’s truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it’s the little things you’re gonna miss the most. Don’t take it for granted because soon, you’ll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You’ve got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You’re going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won’t.


So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You’ve got this.
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What It Means To Live In The Universe

In my very most humble opinion...

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I don't know about y'all, but this is the kind of question that keeps me up at night.

So...I decided to finally answer it.


It means to be there for yourself. It means to be there for others. It means to celebrate and savor every day. It means to see everyone around you as a part of your world, but also to see it that we get to share this world together. It means… everything.

It means feeling connected to every intricate facet you lay eyes on, always caring about those in your life and welcome new people with the warmth you treat your own loved ones.

I just want to be a part of everything and have everything be a part of me. I just want to be happy. It sounds so simple, but it's not because I feel like I let so many things make me unhappy. And those things claw at my throat and my mind and my thoughts, and no matter how optimistic of a person I am, I let stupid arguments or words make me angry or moody…and why? For what reason?

The Universe is full of moments that test me, and that's actually a good thing—it gives me a reason to fight, the urge to seek change and balance and love and see what's good. I should welcome challenges and people who disrupt my peace because I learn to make my peace with more endurance and stamina—it makes me stronger.

And I believe that being in a universe means learning to make myself as strong and as passionate and as full-of-feeling as I can so that I can feel connected and inspired by everything because each moment, each lesson, each difficulty, each insecurity, each second I feel upset, but learn to get over it and see I am actually so lucky to even have the ability to feel…they're all so impactful and influential.

For me, being in a universe means letting the Universe mold me and shape me but so that I can shape and mold right back based on my strength and my will and it's this give and take of life. Love and be loved. Live and let live. They're all famous words, but I see how they mean something to me now—they're finally hitting a personal chord.


Who cares if I get a B? Who cares if I need to ask for help? Who cares if I can't make the deadline? I am my own person and I have my own limits and I just am here to be a part of everything and let it teach me about what being a human is—what being Laura is.

Figuring out my shape and mold is just so…thrilling. And the Universe is there to join me for the ride.

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