"But Cheyenne, I will never find anyone else. I will be single forever."
Oh hell no. Why are people who are so young thinking like this? There are people who are in their 50's still finding the love of their life. I mean, I understand, and I'm with you. I don't want to be 50-years-old and still single, but there's nothing wrong with that. As a college student, I hear too many 18, 19, 20 year-olds saying they will never find someone. Some people mean it in a joking way, which can be funny. But I am confused on why some are so serious when they say this.
Who cares if you're single? It is actually extremely healthy and completely okay to be on your own for a little while, or even a long while. It lets you be selfish, it lets you figure yourself out. You stop putting so much love into someone else that you finally get to focus on loving yourself.
WHICH IS SO IMPORTANT.
You get to let your happiness be on your own. This is something that has scared me when watching friends and even myself go through heartbreak. There is always one person in the relationship that puts almost all their happiness into the other person, and when that person leaves so does the happiness. This is unhealthy and it will crush you. Never let someone be all of your happiness.
Something my very wise best friend said to me once is, "the person you're dating should be the cherry on top of your happiness, they shouldn't be your whole sundae." This is cheesy, but very accurate.
I think we live in a very selfish world, but have you ever watched someone fall in love for the first time? There is nothing selfish about that. You watch that person give away themselves very emotionally and mentally. So much so that they forget to take care of themselves and they don't realize it till they are on their own.
If there is anything I have been taught this past year, it is how quickly things can change. Wake up and remind yourself that you never know who you will meet that day! Don't be discouraged if you are single. Honestly, it took me a good seven months or so to realize being single at this age gives me an advantage. I no longer live with my parents and my life is my own. I am not connected to anyone. If I choose to study abroad, I only have to worry about my decision. If I choose to go somewhere else for college, it is all my own choice!
I am very jealous of the people my age who have found "the one." I am not discounting how special and lucky that is. But to all you single people out there; calm down. Work on bettering yourself, your career, and loving your family and friends. Go get a puppy, maybe take some random trips, and stop complaining about being single. Who knows, tomorrow you might meet that person, or maybe you already have.
But until then, I will keep rolling my eyes every time someone says they will "forever be single."
