If you’re on social media or spend any free time scrolling through articles such as this one, you may have seen a portion of the flood of articles like the ones pictured above. According to a Life Site poll, the number of young adult men that hope for a successful marriage has fallen from 35 percent to 29 percent since 1997, with the main reason cited as: “women aren’t women anymore.”
Men, I see your point. Reading through this slew of related articles was disheartening and sadly, there were a lot of truths to be found. However, there are several points made in these articles that I feel need “a woman’s touch.”
1. “Women don’t respect themselves anymore.”
I’m sorry, but this issue is unrelated to gender and the solution is on the shoulders of society as a whole. To both sexes I would say, value yourself and treat people with respect. Always. And if you happen to come across someone who does not desire or value that respect then respectfully move along. It is not your job or within your ability to make someone desire (or give) respect.
2. “Reluctant to open themselves up to love.”
This particular statement was from a man who claimed when girls opened up about everything, he felt more connected and could not feel the same way with a woman who was guarded.
No.
You don’t get to want a woman who respects herself but does not guard herself.
Here’s the low down. Vulnerability is beautiful and it is absolutely necessary in relationships. If you are just talking to a woman and showing interest, you are not entitled to her heart, her past or her future. Odds are, this guy just missed what he was looking for. A woman who respects, values, and guards herself is going to save intimacy on this level for one man. He will get all the good and the bad and the ugly and it will be beautiful. You’d better believe he will feel “needed” and “trusted,” once he has proven to her that she is wanted and he is trustworthy.
3. “Men are tired…”
The argument that men are tired of feminism teaching that there is something fundamentally wrong with men as a whole is found over and over again. There’s no denying the consequences we are now fighting from the over-zealous, bitter version of feminism. There are bad men out there. There are bad women out there. And there are great people everywhere.
To all those good guys, we do see you when you hold the door open. We appreciate the respect and casual compliments you give. We admire you as a hard worker and value your straightforwardness. The saying is true, good guys are hard to find. But we do see you, and thank you.
