Remain True To You

Remain True To You

Being yourself is one of the easiest things in the world.
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Being yourself is one of the easiest things in the world. I, myself, am a people-pleaser. It's who I am, who I have always been. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily, but not always is it a good thing when you forget yourself trying to please others.

Being a people pleaser means you bend a little, morph into what others will like. If someone is upset with the way things are going, you try 100% to make them the happy until they are completely satisfied. Their pleasure brings you the upmost satisfaction. But as it goes on, and you morph all the time, it seems like a never ending cycle.

In your thoughts and alone. You don't know who you are anymore because you've lost yourself conforming to those around you. Can you see any part of who you used to be?

I have learned the art of saying "no" and being okay with it. Say no to those who you see take advantage of you. Say no to the things you don't feel comfortable with. Say no to those who want everything about you to change just because they don't like it and it would make them happy. It is okay to say "no." It is completely okay to want to help others and want to see them happy, but changing yourself in the process should be no option.

Being a people-pleaser also has an upside. Saying "yes" to things you love. Activities, your happiness, and most importantly - you.

As soon as you learn to say "yes" to yourself and what makes YOU happy, you will have some critics. People will judge you, not like your attitude, you hair, the way you dress, they will push and bully you. But that's on them, by this point of you saying "yes", you love yourself. The way people perceive you isn't something you can help.

Whatever sets your soul on fire, do it. Whatever makes you smile the greatest smile, do it. Don't lose yourself at the expense of other people. The ones who love you for you, they aren't going anywhere. I can assure you that those people are the last ones you need to please, and hold them close because they're rare. Love with your whole heart, dance like no one is watching, tell those corny jokes, wear the style you're comfortable in, you only get one chance at life, don't spend it trying to please others.


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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Dreading This Day All About Love

Valentines day blues

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I have never enjoyed Valentine's Day.

Even if when I was in a relationship it was just an awkward day of "hey I love you, give me gifts and lets make out." But this year, I am just not feeling this thing at all. Since the relationship ended last June I have just been dreading the time when February came, because you know that on the 14th you are going to see all these love post and all us singles are like "welp this is just not my day.", and honestly you feel defeated. I personally asked other singles friends (like the three I have) if they wanted to come and watch Netflix with me and dread the day, but sadly they either had school or work. So here is my plan of getting though this day of love:

NETFLIX

Yes Netflix how else am I supposed to get through this day? Usually I have Greys Anatomy playing all the time but that has love in it, and I am not in the mood for that. My plan is to watch all the crime shows I can because watching TV crime series or documentary about serial killers just seems perfect for the 14th.

SLEEP

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Yes sleeping. I don't have anywhere I need to be why not catch up on some zzz's

CHOCOLATE

Yes I am going to eat my feelings with chocolate because why not? if I could I would get a giant slice of cake and live off that on the 14th but sadly I am stuck with the normal Heresy's chocolate and Reeses which will do their job.

CATS

me :)

This is my wonderful cat Kimber and she will be my partner in crime on the 14th. She will sleep, snuggle, cuddle, all day with me because I need that moral support of my fluffy cat.

BOOKS

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If I am able to fit reading a book into my schedule of everything listed above then reading will go into that open spot. I always loved reading but with school it is hard to find the time to read for enjoyment. so this day will be the perfect day.


This is my plan for the 14th of February and hopefully this will help me get though this dreadful day. And if you are also single try this out :)

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