There are very few things that every person has in common, but also tends to be complete different depending on each personality. One of these few rarities is a sense of style. Unless you've been living under a rock, it's pretty clear that most clothing that was once in fashion, somehow finds its way back, such as scrunchies, high-waisted pants, and the most popular, crop tops. I won't lie, like most 19-year-old girls, I happen to own a few crop tops myself. And also like most 19-year-old girls, I hear a lot criticism about girls and their choice of clothing and whether their outfits are appropriate or not. Surprisingly, the most common critic I hear about girls and their outfits isn't whether or not they're showing to much skin. It's whether or not they are dressed appropriately to match their relationship status.

I don't know about anyone else, but I would just like to say that I have no idea what that means. Is there a specific way you're suppose to dress if you have a boyfriend? Did I forget to pick up my uniform? I've heard different people say you shouldn't wear a crop top or other clothing that could be labeled as "slutty" if you're in a relationship because it is disrespectful to your boyfriend. First of all, I have to say that I use quotes around the term "slutty" because I must have also missed the memo about what the exact definition of slutty clothing is. As far as I can tell, it seems to be a different standard for each person. Not to mention, it would probably be better for us to worry about our own clothing choices instead of someone else.

But the main point is that your relationship status shouldn't affect your wardrobe. The clothes you wear while you're in a relationship don't determine how respectful you are to your partner. It's how you act in that clothing that says a lot about you and your relationship. Wearing a crop top, short skirt, or a tight dress doesn't increase the possibility that you're going to cheat on your boyfriend. Cheating is a sign of a greater issue in the relationship, not what you decided to take out of your closet that night. Ironically, some girls with boyfriends might dress this way because they want to look nice for their boyfriend, not to disrespect him. We want our boyfriends to be proud they get to show us off. So saying that you can't wear certain things because you have a boyfriend is like saying you're only allowed to be so pretty. And although there are a few things that we should put more of a limit on, how beautiful we feel about ourselves and our bodies is not one of them.

Now this idea doesn't just apply to girls with boyfriends. The other main reason why your wardrobe shouldn't be affected by your relationship status is because that's basically implying that all the single girls have a free pass to show as much skin as they want and wear all those "slutty" clothes I've already mentioned. But I know some girls would say, "how else am I suppose to get a guy's attention"? How about your personality, your intelligence, your talents, your likes, your dislikes, and I could go on and on. You should be getting attention and even more, love, from boys because of the parts of you that won't fade over time. And when you finally find that boy you're looking for, do you plan on buying all new clothes? I certainly hope not because that's not only foolish, but also expensive.

The outfits you wear have a definite correlation to the boys you attract. If you want to wear a bra as a shirt and spandex as shorts, then that's fine. You be yourself and wear what makes you comfortable. But are you comfortable with the idea that you're more than likely going to end up with a guy that was only looking at those two things and not listening to anything you just said? I can speak from personal experience because my boyfriend has told me that if we didn't know each other and he saw me dressed like that, then he wouldn't even try to talk to me. My boyfriend is very old school and is the type of guy that brought me flowers for our first date and holds my hand wherever we go. So trust me when I say, I've got one of the good ones. He loves me for a lot more than what I chose to wear and that love doesn't change when I decide to change my outfit.

In the end, the important thing to remember is that self-confidence is one of the most attractive and sexy traits that you can have. And the best part about it is that it doesn't cost a thing. I know that girls wear these "slutty" clothes to feel confident and good about themselves and that is something I completely encourage. But have confidence that what you put out that comes from underneath the skin is much more beautiful than anything you could ever put on it. Not only will this make your relationship with your partner stronger, but also the relationship you have with yourself. And that is the most important one of all.