So, a guy dumped you over text. Honestly, I'm not surprised.

It all starts the same way: you meet in a classic way, you fall epically in love, you spend your days planning the future around each other. Only for one day you are in your car crying as you read the texts over and over again, "Sorry I just don't love you anymore."

Now you find yourself spending your days horizontally on the couch watching their favorite show as you go through all your old texts, and pictures together asking yourself, how could people that were so happy end in disaster. Well it's about time to dry your swollen tear full eyes, because it's about time you hear some honest to god advice of why a guy or gal who breaks your heart isn't worth one more second of your time.

I'm not here to tell you that your love wasn't epic, because according to your memories it was! You had long conversations and felt completely comfortable in silence around each other. Your favorite smell was them and your favorite sound was their laugh. Well, I am so sorry to tell you that all of those memories you are holding on to are lies. Sure, you had the ups, but what about the horrible downs, the constant bickering, the rude comments made about your friends, or the fact that you felt like you were the only trying to make it work.

In all honesty the good and the bad are weighed together in a scale that in your current state, can only reach for the good. The bad is completely washed away from your overwhelming despair. In moments like this you need to wipe your tears and remember the times that he made you feel like crap. Let that rage set in and take over your wallowing. He wasn't even worth it, was he? Nope. You are so much better without him in all aspects. He was just a boy, not even a man, who gave you up, yes you! Your amazing personality and your kick ass sense of humor was wasted on a guy who didn't even take the time to watch your favorite movie, while you sat through countless hours of bad acting and over played fight scenes.

Welcome to the rage stage, my favorite. All of their crap they left you is suddenly burning in a fire pit resembling your heart. They broke your heart and they should feel the same pain. Now is when you feel the need to do something drastic. Should you cut your hair, get bangs, dye it red, or get that revenge body you have been dreaming of? Do it. Hair grows back, nothing's wrong with working out and yeah, maybe bangs aren't really for you, but hey, you did it. All by yourself you found a new piece of you that has been missing since you got dumped. The piece of you craving adventure and not the same old thing day after day. As you come back to reality you may want to pick up your phone and text them. Under no circumstances should you.

This texting stage is bargaining my least favorite. You will text them wanting to catch up over coffee, after you sip your mocha you look into their eyes and see a hopeful future that you felt when you first started going out. All the good emotions and memories flood your sad brain and you start to vocalize your feelings. Before you realize you have gone on a tangent of how you will change for them and how you miss them only to be heartbroken all over again.

Finally, after countless days and nights of clutching your chest crying your heart out, one day it won't hurt as much. I know how stupid that sounds, but in the end, time heals all wounds. You will walk past them on campus and remember fond memories smiling to yourself as you switch to the next song on Spotify. You accept that the relationship has ended and that you are independent once again. Accept this and you will love yourself and others a lot harder than you did to the guy who dumped you over text.