These Are The 3 Reasons It Wasn't You, It Was Me
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These Are The 3 Reasons It Wasn't You, It Was Me

Regardless, breakups suck. But time heals all wounds, including this one.

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These Are The 3 Reasons It Wasn't You, It Was Me
@mrslindseyroman

We’ve all been there. Or we’ll all be there eventually.

Some of us have been there multiple times, and I’m sure we can all agree, each time is never fun.

Breakups are never fun, and we all have different ways of coping with it. But that’s not what this article is going to be about.

No, this is going to be about the three reasons why we broke up.

1. I wanted to be alone

Don’t mistake being alone with being lonely. Those are two very different things.

I said I wanted to be alone. I wanted to be single. I didn’t want to have to answer to anyone. I didn’t want to have to get an “OK” from someone to do something with my friends.

Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean I want to be isolated from everyone. It just means I want to be on my own again for the first time since I was 17.

2. We just weren't compatible

It took me awhile to realize this, but we just weren’t compatible.

We both wanted different things, and no matter how much he tried to convince me otherwise—that it’d work out, that we could compromise and figure something out—I just knew it wasn’t meant to be.

3. I lost feelings

Plain and simple. I lost feelings. It had nothing to do with him. He did absolutely nothing wrong. He was perfect. He’s every girl’s dream guy—he just wasn't my guy.

And for a while, I battled that with myself. He was everything I wanted...or thought I wanted. So, why all of a sudden, did I suddenly not want him anymore?

The truth of the matter is, I simply lost feelings over time. I got bored of the same routine over and over again. And that’s normal. I shouldn’t have to feel bad or apologize for how I feel. I can’t help it, nor can I change it—even if I wanted to.

4. So, yeah, that’s why we broke up.

I’m sure you’ll end up reading this, and I hope the number of talks we’ve had about our break up, combined with this article, will help you better understand why I had to end things.

And to the rest of you reading this, hopefully, my experience helped you out if you were also in the same boat. Or maybe you’ve been through the same thing I did and can relate.

Regardless, breakups suck. But time heals all wounds, including this one.

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