The Real Problem With Cliques

The Real Problem With Cliques

Cliques themselves aren't necessarily bad.

It's no question that over the past several decades, schools ranging from middle school to even collegiate universities are dominated by dynasties of cliques. These cliques range from the theater kids, to band geeks, to computer nerds, to athletes (or jocks), to the “popular girls," and so on. Thanks to movies like Mean Girls and countless published personal stories regarding bullying, certain cliques are known to socially and emotionally destruct others. After reading several publicized stories and analyses of these cliques and the problems they have posed to teenagers, it seems that the most common solution is to eliminate cliques completely. Although this solution may stop the tears from streaming down high-schoolers faces as they eat their lunches in the bathroom stalls, or diminish several cases of depression and anxiety amongst young adults, this solution is very unrealistic. Therefore, it isn't a solution worth discussing or seeking out.

Cliques are inevitable. It is simply our human nature to form special bonds with a close-knit group of friends, whether that group consists of one or 12 people. We are all wired individually; we all have our own senses of humor, ways of thinking, ideas of friendship, etc. There is no way that we are able to form the same intimate friendships with every single person we meet as we do with our best friends, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. Take, for example, the football team. They don't form their “clique" to intentionally hurt others or exclude; rather, the clique forms naturally due to every member's common passion for the sport of football, and not to mention the fact that they spend just about every single day together for practice and games anyways.

My sorority has over 140 girls, meaning that a very long spectrum of personalities exists amongst the chapter. And I'm going to be honest: I do not connect with all of them on the same level. I just don't form the same emotional, intimate bond of friendship with every single one of them as I do with my few closest friends in my sorority. However, I do have the same level of respect for every single member, and that is what is most important. If every single member of every single clique had an equal amount of respect for everyone in their clique as well as everyone else outside of their clique, then I believe that nearly all of the problems associated with cliques would surely drain from our society.

Bullying and social harassment don't stem from cliques themselves; instead, they rise from the actions associated with certain cliques, such as exclusion, hazing, stalking, bullying, etc. Most victims of bullying don't even desire to be part of the clique; they just want to be left alone and/or receive the respect they deserve. So, instead of fostering or generation to remove cliques from our society, it might be more effective and realistic to foster the importance of the distribution of equal respect amongst young adults. Everyone, no matter what their interests or reputations are, deserves the same amount of respect that you give your closest friend. And that equal level of respect is what will evaporate the tension, competition and hate that exists amongst our generation's teens.

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7 Things You Do If You’re One Of Those 'I Always Order Chicken Tenders' People

It's hard to love food but also hate it at the same time.


Growing up, my mom would usually have to cook me a separate dinner from my siblings. Why? Because I was ridiculously picky and wouldn't eat the same foods as everyone else. Trust me, it gets old. It's not my fault certain things just taste gross, you learn to live with it.

1. You eat something you hate just to see if you still hate it

I'll take a bite of a burger every once in a while just to reaffirm that it still tastes like dirt. I just have to know. Don't even get me started on vegetables.

2. When trying to explain what you actually like to eat, people give you major side eye

Don't ask me about my eating habits unless you want to get into a long, confusing conversation.

3. Eating at someone else’s house when you were younger was a pain

You hate to tell their parents just how much you hate the food that they gave you. So, you sucked it up and ate it anyway only to come home and whine to your parents.

4. There’s one thing on any menu you always fall back on...even if it’s on the kids menu

Pizza, maybe. Chicken tenders, always.

5. Trying a new food is a very proud moment

It's like, wow! Look at me being all adventurous.

6. When you realize you actually like some new food, that’s an even more amazing moment

Crazy times. This rarely happens.

7. Sometimes it’s the texture, sometimes it’s the flavor, all the time it’s left on your plate

Oops. At restaurants it's either left on your plate or your order is very specified.

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Why You Should Consider Spring Recruitment

the benefits of sorority life


It's that time of year again!! Time for sororities to get back in the recruitment swing and gain some awesome new members! I serve as recruitment coordinator for my sorority here at The University of Georgia, and love everything recruitment has to offer.

Some of my closest friends in my sorority rushed in the spring as opposed to the beginning of the fall semester. Talking with them and having helped plan spring recruitment, we all came to the common conclusion that spring recruitment is the best!!!

I know that a lot of girls hold themselves back from joining a sorority because of the overwhelming journey it takes to receive a bid. However, spring recruitment is different because often times it is a whole lot more low key and less intense than the typical fall recruitment. It is done on a much smaller scale and really allows you to talk with a handful of sisters in order to get a better idea of what the sorority offers. There can be games, food, and activities involved - who doesn't love the sound of that??!

Maybe last semester was a tough one or you just weren't sure sorority life was for you- whatever the case may be, now is your opportunity to be a part of one of the best things college has to offer!

I'll admit I definitely did not see myself as the "typical sorority girl," but here I am convincing you to take a chance. I can truthfully say that the time I have spent in my sorority has given me some of my favorite memories and has proven to be the biggest blessing. Being a sister has allowed me to travel, find personal growth, develop the strongest of friendships, and ultimately has given me the best support system. Going through my college experience knowing that I have a group of girls that have my back and are there to support me 24/7 has been such a gift. Plus it is always fun to have a class or study buddy! Not only do you gain best friends, but you truly do gain a family as well.

I know it can be a daunting task to put yourself out into an unfamiliar setting with new people, but I promise, if you embrace the experience and stay open you may just find yourself hanging out with your new best friends. Going through recruitment forces you of your comfort zone and pushes you in the best ways possible. Start the year off experiencing something new and exciting! It is so much fun to get to talk to new people and hear all new stories. I can truly tell you that I have laughed louder and smiled more because of taking a chance and going through recruitment. Seeing my sisters brightens my day and adds more joy to my life. And besides, what girl doesn't love an excuse to get all dolled up and put on her cutest outfit?!

Recruitment is a 11/10 experience – would 100% recommend!

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