There are so many things I used to look for when I was looking to date someone. I looked for the athlete, the guy that killed big bucks, the guy that dressed really nice, the guy with the nice abs and big arms, the guy with the Cole Haans, the guy with the nicest truck in the parking lot, the guy that had pretty teeth and won me over with his charm, the guy that complimented my looks, and the guy that I thought was a MAN.
Key word, thought.I never looked for the guy that prays before his meals, the guy that asks me if I had prayed today, and if not, do we want to pray together, the guy that calls me higher, the guy that has convictions because he reads his bible, the guy that just loves people for people, the guy that puts God first instead of himself, the guy that doesn't make me lust after him, and the guy that holds me accountable spiritually.
You see, real men love Jesus. The things that the world we live in views as important are things that eventually fade. A nice truck can be wrecked. An athlete could get hurt and not be able to play the sport you thought was so dreamy, the guy that hunts could be the biggest jerk in the world, but it's okay because he is good at hunting and that makes him attractive, (like that literally makes no sense when I write it out, but I really thought that way). Money fades, looks fade, charm goes away. But a man who fights for a relationship with God and seeks God in his everyday actions, that is a man not only worth looking for, but worth waiting for.
Wait for the man who not only is a strong man of faith, but makes you a stronger woman of faith. Wait for the man who takes you on dates because being alone in the house together is tempting, heck, wait for the man who recognizes tempting situations and avoids them. Wait for the man who protects your heart and his own. Wait for the man who leads you in a way you did not even think was possible, and in a way that makes you want to follow him. Wait for the man who does not lash out in anger, but prays before he addresses you when he is upset. Wait for the man who does not make you the center of his world but instead, God is the center and he strives to be more like Jesus every day. Wait for the man who accepts his flaws and yours so that he is able to show you grace and mercy like the Father shows us.
The worldly view of relationships and people is all based on the outward, but what is truly important is the inward and the heart of the man you decide to be with. Don't wait for the man you think is the "perfect" fit because of the outward things, but wait on the man that pursues you with purpose and who's number one goal is to get to heaven. Real men love Jesus more than they love you, and that's more attractive than any outward procession or quality one could have.
