Ever since I could remember, dating has been a complete chore. I'm not sure what went wrong along the line but both guys and girls seem to have an unhealthy and warped view of dating. Today as a college sophomore, it is incredibly hard to find a guy who shares the same values and goals as me, especially when it comes to a relationship. It seems like even older guys just want to be a "chill thing" but not make any real commitment. When asked why they can not make a commitment, they answer it's too scary. Then I think about the fact that they all committed to go to this university for at least four years and the majority of them have committed to a major which literally sets you up for what you will be doing for the rest of your life. So clearly it isn't a fear of commitment.
I have determined that it's a fear on missing out on something "better". No one is ever going to be perfect and that's what these guys keep searching for. By searching I mean endless, meaningless, hook ups with girls they don't even know. And then they wonder why they don't find the perfectness they're looking for. In my opinion girls that are worth being with long-term don't hook up endlessly with guys. They stick to their values in hopes to find someone that matches.
Back to the trouble of modern "dating", which is no where near dating might I add. It is watching Netflix and hooking up. What happened to taking a girl you liked on a real date. And don't make excuses of being broke in college. You can make her dinner or take her to a movie. Treating a girl properly doesn't actually require money at all but yet guys find it so hard. Be respectful for once.
*steps off soapbox*
