I Am Pro-Life And Pro-Choice

I Am Pro-Life And Pro-Choice

How a woman can believe in her rights and value life.

I know what you’re thinking... Brittany, you’re dumb. You cannot possibly be both pro-choice and pro-life. Oh, dear reader, but I can, and I will tell you how.

We are often pitted against each other in the debate concerning abortion; we are either staunch pro-choice advocates or unwavering, conservative pro-life supporters. In most cases, our stance on the matter derives entirely from our political party affiliation. It is assumed all Democrats are “raging feminists” who shout down the opinions of the opposing, overly-conservative Republicans. This assumption was fed to us, to our society, for so long we became blind to the political melting pot we are not engulfed in.

We live in a nation presented as having only two ways of thought, that of the left-wing and that of the right-wing, especially in terms of situational debates (such as abortion). We think it impossible for a woman to be both pro-choice and pro-life because it defies what we're told, what we were taught, and what we were conditioned to think.

My view does not fit either of the assumed teachings of our current party system. I did not create it from the televised opinions, the advertised arguments, or any other such influential tactic, but rather, I compiled and formed it of my own accord.

To understand my argument’s composition, I believe it beneficial to give my connotative definition of both terms, “pro-life” and “pro-choice”. To my understanding, the “pro-life” cause derives from the belief a child, a fetus, is deemed a living being once the heartbeat can be monitored. This marks the beginning of life, and should the mother choose to abort the fetus, it is considered murder.

The “pro-choice” argument, in contrast, stands contingent on the woman’s right to decide for herself how to handle and manage her own body. The woman has a right to make decisions concerning her own body, to willingly carry or terminate an unwanted child, and to make the best choice for her wellness. To maintain the health and wellbeing of her body, the woman exercises her authority to dispose of anything potentially harmful to her physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Now, it seems these two arguments stand vehemently opposed to one another, and the idea of supporting both arguments seems impossible. The immense chasm of a gap between them, however, can be bridged. So, let me show you how I did it.

I believe life is sacred (human life, in particular). We are different than animals; we have consciousness, souls, and unexplainable variation from the life around us. I believe terminating a life of any kind is a tragedy, but terminating that of a human child holds an entirely different type of grief and sorrow. That being said, I believe also the life of a human being is one of the most beautiful things we witness. The journey each and every person embarks on (from the moment they enter the world, to the day they leave it) is full of love and joy, loneliness and desperation, change and growth. To rob a man of experiencing such a travel through the mess that we call life is an immense injustice.

With the above-mentioned thoughts in mind, I also believe women are free to make their own choices concerning their bodies. My argument concerning women’s choice does, however, go a little further back than her pregnancy. I believe a woman exercises her decision to do with her body as she pleases if she makes the choice to have unprotected sex. Whether a woman is married or not, she does have a say so in how she participates in sexual activities. We emphasize consent in this culture so much so, the decision in such situations ought to be entirely at the discretion of the woman. The woman has the choice to give consent or dissolve the situation entirely. She makes the choice. She exercises her ability to do with her body as she pleases.

The woman also holds the power to decide whether or not to use premeditated measures to avoid the slightest possibility of pregnancy. With the technological advances of the present, so many options for women exist that she has numerous ways to prevent conception. She exercises the choice to either take such precautions or not.

That is a decision only the woman can make.

I believe if women exercise their abilities to control their choices concerning their bodies before conception, then they avoid the chance of having to make a more difficult decision down the road. We fight to give women so much power concerning their bodies we eliminate the consequences of irresponsibility. The choices they make about their bodies can come with undesired consequences, and if we, as women, are not diligent in our decisions, we are responsible for them. We make a choice for ourselves (in the most part) to become subject to pregnancy, whether out of love, lust, passion, etc.

In that moment, we choose.

We have the ability to say no, and we have the ability to say yes. We have the ability to take birth control, and we have the ability to not. We have the power to make any choice that we want, but we must also be responsible for the repercussions of an unwise choice. A pregnancy shared with the man you love is a beautiful result of the choices you made. Although, a pregnancy resulting from a mishap, or a one night stand, is also a product of your choices.

As strong and empowered women of this age, we must be responsible for our decisions, both desired and undesired. I believe in women's power to make their own decisions about their bodies and the wellbeing of, in addition to my belief in life's sanctity.

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This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

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2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

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The Disrespectful Nature Of My Generation Needs To Stop

Why choosing phone games over a Holocaust survivor was my breaking point.


While many students that attended Holocaust survivor Hershel Greenblat's talk were rightfully attentive, I noticed, out of the corner of my eye, a few outlier students tapping away on their phones. They were minute movements, but inappropriate nonetheless.

Immediately I became infuriated. How, I thought, fuming, did my generation become so blithely unaware to the point where we could not proffer basic respect to a survivor of one of the most horrific events in human history?

Perhaps the students were just texting their parents, telling them that the event would run a bit long. 10 minutes later, my eyes diverted from Greenblat back to the students. They were still on their phones. This time, I could see the screens being held horizontally—indicating a game or a show was being played. I wanted to get up, smack the distractions out of their hands, and ask them why they thought what they were doing was more important than a Holocaust speaker.

I will not waste any more time writing about the disrespectful few. Because they could not give Greenblat the time of their day, I will not give them mine. Instead, I want to focus on a massive trend my generation has mistakenly indulged ourselves in.

The Greenblat incident is only an example of this phenomenon I find so confusing. From young, it was instilled in me, probably via Chinese tradition, that elders should be respected. It is a title only revoked when unacceptable behavior allows it to be, and is otherwise maintained. I understand that not everybody comes from a background where respect is automatically granted to people. And I see that side of the story.

Why does age automatically warrant respect? It is the fact that they have made it this far, and have interesting stories to tell. There are exceptions, perhaps more than there are inclusions.

But this fact can be determined by the simple act of offering an elderly person your seat on public transportation. Sure, it can be for their health, but within that simple act is a meaningful sacrifice for somebody who has experienced more than you.

Age aside, at Greenblat's talk, majority of the disrespect shown might not have been agist. Instead, it could have been the behavior students just there for the check-in check-out extra credit that multiple classes and clubs were offering. While my teachers who advertised the event stressed the importance of attendance not just for the academic boost, but for the experience, I knew that some of the more distracted students there must have been those selfish, ignorant, solely academic driven cockalorums.

I stay hopeful because majority of my classmates were attentive. We knew to put aside our Chromebooks, regardless of note-taking, and simply listen to what Greenblat had to offer.

It would be wrong to label my generation as entitled— that's a misnomer for the generation before. We are still wavering between the line of automatic respect and earned respect, but we need to set a line for people whom we know the stories of. Especially a Holocaust survivor.

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