"This is hard," I thought to myself the day after I got broken up with. What am I supposed to do with all this time that I used to spend with him and his family? Where do I go when I want to get away for a little bit? Where can I go that won’t remind me of him? Going through a heartbreak is never easy, but here is how to be a pro if your heart is broken again.
1. Don’t go to the same places that you went with them.
Whether you went to the same coffee shop every afternoon or the same place for date nights, avoid those places. You will be reminded of him every time you step into that coffee shop so save yourself the trouble and avoid those places like the plague.
2. Don’t rebound
Although it seems like a good idea at the time, it’s not. If you are not over someone, don’t jump into a relationship right away. Remind yourself that you are better off without someone for right now. It will only hurt the person who is the rebound and it will not look good if you have a rebound.
3. Take care of yourself
It’s hard to get out of bed when you are going through a breakup, It’s hard to do a lot of things. You have to take care of yourself. You have to keep moving forward even if you don’t feel like it. Once you get up and take care of yourself, you will feel much better.
4. Remind yourself that you deserve better
Most times in failed relationships, you know there are things that you hated that they did. Remind yourself that you deserve a guy who remembers your Starbucks order or what your favorite color is. You don’t deserve a guy who texts you when he’s outside or who doesn’t open doors for you.
5. Don’t ask them for a second chance
Don’t be the one who is always busy trying to get back with their ex. They are your ex for a reason. There is a reason the relationship had to end. Asking for a second chance will make you look weak.
6. Spend a ton of time with your friends
Your friends love you when you are at your weakest. They will constantly be there for you no matter what. Your friends will hate your ex for everything they have done to you. Spend as much time with them as you can and you will feel better instantly.
7. Treat yourself
You don’t need to go on a big shopping spree, but shopping can cure anything. Buy yourself a new shirt or a new lipstick color that you will feel confident in. Although materialistic things won’t buy you lifetime happiness, it will give you happiness for a short time and will make you forget you are upset or sad.
8. Do something you are passionate about
Do something you love, love something that you do. Take time out of your day and do something you love and that you are passionate about. It can be as simple as painting your nails or going for an evening jog.
9. Set a goal and accomplish it
Set a goal with a day you want to complete it by and go after it. It will keep you busy, and completing something will make you feel better about yourself.
10. Love yourself first
"Love yourself" is simple to say but hard to do, especially in hard times. Even though you are heartbroken, there are so many great things about you. You have to love yourself first before you can love anyone.
Although it's hard to pick yourself up after a breakup, remember that you have friends for you and that you will get through it somehow. xoxo, Gossip Girl.
