You Are Far More Than 'Pretty Enough'

You Are Far More Than 'Pretty Enough'

Brush your hair. Shave your legs. Wear perfume. Don’t slouch. Tuck in your stomach. Don’t give your opinion.

“Was I pretty enough?” You think to yourself as you lie on the floor in heartache once again.

“Was I skinny enough?” You utter as you stand in the mirror, sucking in your flesh blaming your body for the pings in your heart.

“Was I smart enough?” You wonder to yourself as you rehash the questions from the exam you just took.

“Was I strong enough?” You worry as you leave the gym.

“Was I enough?”

It all echoes through your head as you look back at all the things that went wrong or the things that seemed to go wrong.

It becomes a mean self-affliction.

As a woman, you blame yourself for every little thing that doesn’t work out.

You apologize for moments that don’t require an apology at all.

“I’m sorry my hair is a mess.”

“I’m sorry I’m so tired.”

“I’m sorry the weather is bad.”

“I’m sorry” becomes your mantra, as well as a never-ending chain of pointless apologies.

Somehow, you’re taught from a young age to base everything on your appearance.

Don’t play too rough, you’ll get dirty. Don’t talk too loud. Don’t dress messy. Tuck in your stomach.

Keep your nails clean. Brush your hair. Put on makeup. Shave your legs. Wear perfume.

Don’t cross your legs. Don’t sit with your legs apart. Don’t burp. Don’t slouch.

Don’t give your opinion.

Your life is dictated to be this way the minute your gender is revealed on an ultrasound.

Pink balloons fill hospital rooms and you become a “princess,” but not a princess that is ever actually treated like royalty.

You’re the princess from a Disney movie. The one cleaning floors that loses her beauty at midnight.

You’re the one standing there, being taught daily that you’re not enough until a Fairy Godmother appears to make you beautiful.

Pretty enough.

“Am I?”

“Are my boobs big enough?”

“Is my hair thick enough?”

“Is my stomach flat enough?”

“Am I pretty enough?”

Why have you allowed the world to dictate to you what constitutes enough?

Why have you allowed other people to give value you to you?

You’ve given others permission to measure something that is not theirs to measure.

It’s YOURS and yours alone.

Darling let me tell you that you ARE pretty.

Pretty smart.

Pretty funny.

Pretty unique.

Pretty adventurous.

Pretty caring.

Pretty loving.

Pretty exciting.

And your heart is BEAUTIFUL.

You are and always WILL BE enough.

You. Are. Enough.

Forget pretty.


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Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

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So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semicolon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6. Greek symbol of Inguz: Where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya).

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty, and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love, and creativity or to put yourself into whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from "The Hobbit." It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength and stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyph means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe and the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can remind us of the inconsistency of life. It also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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