I've learned so much about people since I left for college. I also learned how the world really isn't worried about what you do, in the real world that is. In high school, or should I say in the small town I lived in, it was always "gossip, gossip, gossip." Now, don't get me wrong, I like gossip just as much as the next girl; however, I don't like to judge others for their decisions, unless it proposes necessary. Everyone always compares other people's situations to his or her situation. But not all situations are alike. Actually, almost no two situation are exactly alike, and not everyone comes out of those situations in the same ways. Some will be affected, and some will not be.
It's easy to start putting your two-cents in when a problem arises with another. But what about listening? Why is that not a thing anymore? Have we become so self-obsessed and egotistical that we can't even attempt to begin to understand another's situation without running our mouths? Sometimes, it doesn't matter what YOU would do, it matters what THEY CAN do in the situation that is presented to THEM. Other times, it may just be that the only solution is to consolidate them with your opinions about the problem, but only if it is necessary. It sometimes feels good to know that others understand the pressure that you are under, and it may actually relax them. But our two-cents is not always needed to be a good friend. The funny thing is so many people use their two-cents to be the exact opposite of a friend: an enemy. They run their mouths and don't fully take into account the situation that they have never had to overcome. It's not my place to give my opinion on a person who has yet to understand their journey, and we all find it in different ways and different time frames.
This brings me to my point: we are brainwashed into believing in a so-called 'structured plan.' But the truth is, there is no such thing as a structured plan in the first place. We are taught from a very young age that we need to get from point A to point B in the shortest, and most efficient amount of time possible. However, it doesn't always work out that way - sometimes our journey does not fit into this so-called "structured plan." It's always a great idea to plan out your life, and how you want it to look like - this is called manifestation; however, if it doesn't work out exactly like the plan you once had in mind, it's nothing to fret over or be judged for. When someone is a genuinely good person, and they accidentally make a mistake,why is everyone so disappointed? One answer: it doesn't fit into our structured plan. But stop being so disappointed in people for not doing what you expected them to do. Life is not about expectation, it's about becoming the best version of yourself, and that includes taking some risks. In the process of becoming one's best version, he or she has lesson after lesson to learn before he or she gets there.
So, be more considerate of other people's situations, and don't be so quick to judge when they don't do as YOU think they should have.
It's not your place to make that judgement.
