Plan For The Future, Live In The Present

Plan For The Future, Live In The Present

Easier said than done.

This stage of life that I'm currently in I like to call ___ percent adult. In case you were wondering I'm 20 years old and some days I feel like I'm 12 and others I think I'm wise beyond my years. It's this awkward, in-between phase where I feel like I'm ready to take on the world one minute, and then in the same day, I'm calling my mom five times because well, I still need mom's help.

In other words, I'm 75% adult one day and 13% adult another day, all in the same week. And it's a whirlwind, to say the least. I'm the average 20-year-old girl. I have peers that I graduated high school with that are married with kids, others who are bopping around the world in the military, some who are drunk college students, and others like myself who are somewhere in the middle of having their life planned out/still trying to figure it out.

I'm a planner. Always have been and always will be because it keeps me from getting anxious and gives me goals to hold myself accountable for. This can be a positive and negative characteristic all at once but I've quit trying to control it. I can plan for the plan, but cannot force the plan. This is a concept that I still struggle with. Being half an adult makes me excited about my future and wanting to plan every step of the way. While its good to have goals. I also find myself beating myself up if my plan does not go exactly according to plan.

Life changes. And you can't control it. A friend told me that last week and although the sentence is short, and should be implied, it wasn't something I really took into consideration. The beauty of this in-between adult/child stage in life is the uncertainty of it all. Every day is a new surprise, lesson, and memory.

This chapter of being a college student is a time period I will never get back. Sure it's confusing some days when my mind wants to plan my life out 40 years into the future when I should really be focusing on just trying to pass my math test next week. I worry about the unknowns because I want to have all the answers, and I feel planning gives me those answers. But that's not realistic, and I'm willing to bet my future self that I will miss these days at some point and would do anything to go back.

For the time being, I want to enjoy what I have left of my college career and live in the moment, not live planning for the future.

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There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

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Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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